People Avoid Pain
The conditions are described as causing pain and
People avoid pain and difficulty.
Medically speaking, circumcision is indicated when
retraction of the foreskin causes difficulty or pain. With many
degrees of different conditions retraction can involve uncomfortable
or painful experiences sometimes at the beginning of sexual activity,
sometimes during it and sometimes for a period of time afterwards.
When sexual pleasure is consciously associated with pain or difficulty,
then we might expect frustration or even masochistic tendencies to
be encouraged for a period of time (usually at the beginning of puberty).
However, when pain or difficulty is avoided this can lead to far greater
It is normally considered common sense and healthy for people to
avoid pain and difficulty. If one has a bad shoulder one avoids moving
it, one is limited and confined, but then it does not hurt. With time
and rest some pains will heal, others will worsen. An interesting comparison
is people with angst for dentists who will so successfully develop
the habit of eating on one side of their mouth that for a while they
successfully forget the toothache.
The point is that it is not because
a boy is stupid or in some way psychosexually unbalanced, but like
everyone does with everything else, a boy avoids sensations which are
painful and difficult. In playing with his erection a boy learns that
his foreskin is unmovable, in fact then, in some way untouchable.
Often he does not realise that he's avoiding anything. How aware
or unaware a man is, is influenced by many aspects of his life and
general sexual education, but to a large extent it is the nature of
the anatomical condition itself and the consequent type and degree
of pain which determines his response.
At the same time as avoiding pain one suppresses awareness. One
avoids even thinking about any area which one is avoiding. Factors
like worry can make pain worse, but someone who is successful in distancing
themselves from pain also subdues their anatomical awareness. Avoiding
pain or difficulty generates an apprehensiveness, fear or anxiety and
this always hinders open minded observation and reasoning - thus confirming
the blind spot - an area which is unknowable and unthinkable.
This is all understandable and sufferers should feel no extra embarrassment
about the possibility of them in some way being stupid for not noticing
or reacting to their condition earlier or later than anyone else.