The Magic of a Man
When the phallus is inhibited, the individual's relationship with
his own body and his ability to share and satisfy himself and others
is also inhibited. In due course his experience in intimate relationships
(Again, social inhibitions may develop and
the full opportunities of manhood may be denied for many complicated
psycho-social reasons which are discussed in many large volumes of
books, here we are discussing a simple fact of life which has been
overlooked. And how easy it would be to resolve, how ridiculous that
this extra complication became established in the first place).
"both men and boys
can - over time, adapt their beliefs and thinking patterns to accommodate
their anatomical conditions.". When a problem is conscious, an individual has the choice of confronting
it, and by confronting it can even turn it to some greater strength.
On the other hand, when unknown to the individual he's fighting his
own closest friend, how many self deceptions would he accept in order
to maintain a sense of integrity?
Both the subconscious and semi-conscious experiences limit and confuse reality. Over a period of time as situations and lovers are repeatedly mis-sensed and misinterpreted, the sufferer learns to live with a one sided and unbalanced picture of himself and the world.
Attitudes and intentions adapt to accommodate the illusion of normality or the doubts of abnormality; the inconsistencies become integrated, (alternatively the personality becomes disintegrated) . Similar to the incest victim or the person who represses his homosexuality, the personality adapts to and adopts this irrational chaos element.
His experience of what defines him as man is limited, inhibited
and avoided, how can he develop a realistic sense of being a man or
any realistic confidence (Latin fidere 'trust') in his maleness?
Foreskin inhibitions can never support and would always undermine fulfilment
and sexual confirmation as a man.
It is impossible to define the consequences in any absolute terms,
unrecognised foreskin conditions are best understood as an inhibition
with the tendency to stimulate isolation. They add an unnecessary confusing
ingredient to intimate relationships and subsequently social relations
of all sorts. They are compatible with shyness, privacy, anxiety, frustration
and loneliness, and they are incompatible with a relaxed sexuality,
openness in intimate relationships and thus, happiness and leading
a simple life.
When the magic of a man is subconsciously in
a state of bondage, who can say exactly where this may lead his sexual
energy? The ability to share and satisfy himself and others is inhibited.
His intimacy with his own body reflects in any and every close relationship.
Without this intimacy and the integration with himself and others,
the wholeness of a man is missing.
Was it innocence or ignorance - which led to these consequences?