This site discusses phimosis in its specific forms of phimotic ring, frenulum breve, adhesions or skinbridges. During erection these conditions inhibit the relationship between foreskin and glans. This functionally restricts the erection, and thus has an effect on the sexuality. With our culture's attitudes on health care, it would be appropriate to monitor boys before puberty and encourage early prevention.

2012 : note from author: My previous idea of monitoring boys before puberty is impractical, unecessary and now only of historical interest. please see Postscript.

updates and supporting education on new site : Phimosis.cloud

BOYFRIEND`S FRENULUM

>When we are having sex, my boyfriend sometimes has pain or bleeds from the underside of the head (where the V is I think, he won't let me see). He also sometimes has problems inserting as the foreskin is being pulled backwards and the bit under the head stretches/hurts.

>(is there meant to be a fold still or when you pull back is it meant to look smooth?) What can I tactfully suggest

you are describing frenulum breve, - a great many men with this condition - without thinking -simply blindly- have an unconscious fear of circumcision, the point is frenulum breve does not require circumcision, - tell him that frenulum breve needs no circumcision and slowly rational thoughts may dawn on him ... further, the welcome page on my site would have enabled you an accurate diagnosis - please read the welcome page now and then get him to read it, .. all the links to further information and treatment of this condition are obvious

Robin

Forum Letter 804
Written by cyndi at 21 Nov 2000 10:03:54:

When we are having sex, my boyfriend sometimes has pain or bleeds from the underside of the head (where the V is I think, he won't let me see). He also sometimes has problems inserting as the foreskin is being pulled backwards and the bit under the head stretches/hurts.

What is the problem and is there anyway to solve it rather than going to the doctor - it's kind of a touchy/embarassing subject for him, something abou this manliness being questioned so I have to be tactful.

Also, he sometimes smells a bit fishy/yucky under the foreskin as I think it doesn't go all the way back (is there meant to be a fold still or when you pull back is it meant to look smooth?) What can I tactfully suggest especially if it is a movement problem of the foreskin. BTW there is no visible substance.

Thanks!!

Written by RJK at 22 Nov 2000 21:58:23:
As an answer to: Boyfriend written by cyndi at 21 Nov 2000 10:03:54:

The fishy/yucky smell is due to bacteria that grow in the warm moist area under the foreskin. You can wash with soap and water, of course, but it is difficult to control them unless the area can be kept dry, as it is after circumcision or permanent retraction of the foreskin.

So far as the bleeding problem is concerned, if he will let you, you might be able to help by gently stretching the foreskin after you apply sweet oil under it, and by trying to pull it back enough to completely loosen the frenulum and free the foreskin to totally uncover the glans. ... If you can get him to allow you to handle him gently as a part of pre-sexual foreplay (as some couples customarily do) you may be able to help him get over the problem. However, if all else fails and it continues to interfere with your enjoyment of sex, you ought to drag him, kicking screaming if he insists, to a doctor who can (without much question) put a stop to the problem in a hurry with a minimum of pain. By the way, it's no more a reflection on his manliness to see a doctor for a problem in this area than it would be to see one for a sore throat that doesn't heal. Lots of luck, RJK.