Dear R. Stuart,
Yesterday I read your essay. It concerned me because I had this problem
but I have never thought that it could be affecting my behavior in
some way. I am sure that my sexual behavior is not normal. I have entered
adulthood with this restriction and now the idea persist.
I am 26. When I was child I did not realize this problem. When I
was a teenager I realized it. I saw that I was different from my friends.
I felt embarassed when I was in the bathroom with my classmates. Also,
I couldn't masturbate easily. I needed to be very careful and often
I did not get orgasm. I knew that I could not have sex. I did not have
a relationship because if I had a preposition I could have intercourse.
I decided to go to the urologists at 22. I had the foreskin that
sticked all my glans. After the operation I was "normal" but until
now I feel extraneous.
I have never had sex with a woman. I had sex with my cousin when
I was 10-12 years old. It was like a play. After that, I had it with
my neighbor (13-15) I think it was more seriously. I was only passive.
Although I do not have sex with guys now, I feel I am homosexual.
I have tried to explain this behavior and my own answer was the former
relation with my cousin. I tried to have girlfriend but I do not why
I couldn't. Now, I think that being an uncircumcised male played an
I have wanted to go several times to the psychologist but I feel
embarazed to talk about it. In my country this sexual preference is
abnormal (I mean, be homosexual).
Mr. Stuart, I am willing to give you more information each time
it wil be able help other persons like me. I am sure that my identidy
will be threated in a confidential way.
Note : I apalogize for the Englis, it is not my native language.
at a guess you're Spanish ... or Italien ... and I hope not too much
disappointment but I'm not a doctor ... I answer to Robin or Bob or
>After the operation I was "normal" but until now I feel extraneous.
In English we cant actually say we feel extraneous, ... but being
a foreigner in Germany I have often an unpleasant experience which
one could call extraneous ... so perhaps this is exactly what you mean
>I decided to go to the urologist at 22. I had a foreskin that sticked
all my glans.
So you had late infant adhesions ... very painful for masturbation
you could only rub lightly or apply pressure to the phallus when masturbating
... penetration would be pretty impossible ..
Psychologists in my experience have no idea on anatomically based
I dont know if maybe you are homosexual by nature ... I am sure
the painful foreskin throughout puberty development would have some
inhibitive sexual effects ... what exactly, ?? maybe they just make
any already existing influence more extreme ...
(.. Invitations followed to join ARC etc. .. )