This site discusses phimosis in its specific forms of phimotic ring, frenulum breve, adhesions or skinbridges. During erection these conditions inhibit the relationship between foreskin and glans. This functionally restricts the erection, and thus has an effect on the sexuality. With our culture's attitudes on health care, it would be appropriate to monitor boys before puberty and encourage early prevention.

2012 : note from author: My previous idea of monitoring boys before puberty is impractical, unecessary and now only of historical interest. please see Postscript.

EXTRANEOUS FEELINGS

Dear R. Stuart,
Yesterday I read your essay. It concerned me because I had this problem but I have never thought that it could be affecting my behavior in some way. I am sure that my sexual behavior is not normal. I have entered adulthood with this restriction and now the idea persist.

I am 26. When I was child I did not realize this problem. When I was a teenager I realized it. I saw that I was different from my friends. I felt embarassed when I was in the bathroom with my classmates. Also, I couldn't masturbate easily. I needed to be very careful and often I did not get orgasm. I knew that I could not have sex. I did not have a relationship because if I had a preposition I could have intercourse.

I decided to go to the urologists at 22. I had the foreskin that sticked all my glans. After the operation I was "normal" but until now I feel extraneous.

I have never had sex with a woman. I had sex with my cousin when I was 10-12 years old. It was like a play. After that, I had it with my neighbor (13-15) I think it was more seriously. I was only passive.

Although I do not have sex with guys now, I feel I am homosexual. I have tried to explain this behavior and my own answer was the former relation with my cousin. I tried to have girlfriend but I do not why I couldn't. Now, I think that being an uncircumcised male played an important role.

I have wanted to go several times to the psychologist but I feel embarazed to talk about it. In my country this sexual preference is abnormal (I mean, be homosexual).

Mr. Stuart, I am willing to give you more information each time it wil be able help other persons like me. I am sure that my identidy will be threated in a confidential way.

Regards,

Note : I apalogize for the Englis, it is not my native language.

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at a guess you're Spanish ... or Italien ... and I hope not too much disappointment but I'm not a doctor ... I answer to Robin or Bob or even Stuart

>After the operation I was "normal" but until now I feel extraneous.

In English we cant actually say we feel extraneous, ... but being a foreigner in Germany I have often an unpleasant experience which one could call extraneous ... so perhaps this is exactly what you mean ... !!

>I decided to go to the urologist at 22. I had a foreskin that sticked all my glans.

So you had late infant adhesions ... very painful for masturbation you could only rub lightly or apply pressure to the phallus when masturbating ... penetration would be pretty impossible ..

Psychologists in my experience have no idea on anatomically based sexual problems

I dont know if maybe you are homosexual by nature ... I am sure the painful foreskin throughout puberty development would have some inhibitive sexual effects ... what exactly, ?? maybe they just make any already existing influence more extreme ...

(.. Invitations followed to join ARC etc. .. )

Cheers Robin