GIRLFRIEND SUFFERS TOO
reading your German version of the phimose I just want to consult you:
My bofriend (28) suffers from it - and me too. It is not too often,
but every third time he can't come because of it. And the use of condoms
is difficult, too.
He didn't have a proper girlfriend yet, so he is not used to regular
sex anyway. I even had contact to a few men who were circumcised doing
"research" over the net about this problem I am so devastated that
it gets worse with sexual contact! So from now on it must become more
But he absolutely denies to get an operation. He is absolutely anxious.
I am quite devastated because I feel so helpless. I really love him,
and our emotional and rational understanding is phenomenal. As we are
only together for a few months our sex life is not much developped
yet, and I have a health problem too (the Crohn's disease with peri-anal
complications). So I don't want to overcharge him. But after a certain
time we have to face the problem. What is your recommendation?
Thanks a lot for your answer.
This is very tricky if he doesn«t want to have an operation ...
use your love and your communication to get through the problems
... extreme anxiety ... what can I suggest ... it IS anxiety for the
unknown and a bit of education may cure this ... maybe he imagines
that a full circumcision is the only cure ... mostly a partial circumcision
or even a dorsal slit will suffice ... but are you sure it is phimosis,
it could be frenulum breve - please check this out
please could you read the english
where you will find a summary of the conditions
you could also read
get about half way down the page and then follow links for dorsal slit
and partial circumcision - if you educate yourself it would be easier
to educate him.
For extreme anxiety, I would consider a loving relationship better
than any psychologist ...
sorry I have no potted answer