This site discusses phimosis in its specific forms of phimotic ring, frenulum breve, adhesions or skinbridges. During erection these conditions inhibit the relationship between foreskin and glans. This functionally restricts the erection, and thus has an effect on the sexuality. With our culture's attitudes on health care, it would be appropriate to monitor boys before puberty and encourage early prevention.

2012 : note from author: My previous idea of monitoring boys before puberty is impractical, unecessary and now only of historical interest. please see Postscript.

updates and supporting education on new site : Phimosis.cloud

GIRLFRIEND SUFFERS TOO

Hi Robin,
reading your German version of the phimose I just want to consult you: My bofriend (28) suffers from it - and me too. It is not too often, but every third time he can't come because of it. And the use of condoms is difficult, too.

He didn't have a proper girlfriend yet, so he is not used to regular sex anyway. I even had contact to a few men who were circumcised doing "research" over the net about this problem I am so devastated that it gets worse with sexual contact! So from now on it must become more painful...

But he absolutely denies to get an operation. He is absolutely anxious. I am quite devastated because I feel so helpless. I really love him, and our emotional and rational understanding is phenomenal. As we are only together for a few months our sex life is not much developped yet, and I have a health problem too (the Crohn's disease with peri-anal complications). So I don't want to overcharge him. But after a certain time we have to face the problem. What is your recommendation?
Thanks a lot for your answer.
Yours

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This is very tricky if he doesn«t want to have an operation ...

use your love and your communication to get through the problems ... extreme anxiety ... what can I suggest ... it IS anxiety for the unknown and a bit of education may cure this ... maybe he imagines that a full circumcision is the only cure ... mostly a partial circumcision or even a dorsal slit will suffice ... but are you sure it is phimosis, it could be frenulum breve - please check this out

please could you read the english
www.male-initiation.net
where you will find a summary of the conditions

you could also read
http://www.male-initiation.net/phimosis_treatment.html
get about half way down the page and then follow links for dorsal slit and partial circumcision - if you educate yourself it would be easier to educate him.

For extreme anxiety, I would consider a loving relationship better than any psychologist ...

sorry I have no potted answer
Good Luck
Robin