This site discusses phimosis in its specific forms of phimotic ring, frenulum breve, adhesions or skinbridges. During erection these conditions inhibit the relationship between foreskin and glans. This functionally restricts the erection, and thus has an effect on the sexuality. With our culture's attitudes on health care, it would be appropriate to encourage early prevention.

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Written by Tina at 30 Aug 2001 Forum2

I met a wonderful guy 3 years ago but sadly we split up 6 months ago & probably it had someting to do with his problem & the result of being 'cured' or made to feel a man again.

When we 1st went to bed he wouldn't let me masturbate him because he 'had a problem' in that his foreskin wouldn't retract. He had difficulty reaching orgasm although after 3 weeks he did but only after lots of rapid thrusts but with no deep penetration.When with his ex-wife before they were married he had experienced bleeding so was frightened to get over excited.

He was then 36 when we met, had only slept with his ex-wife with whom he'd had sex from 17, but he had 2 kids from the marriage.I told him it was no big deal & made him promise to see his GP whilst I was away in the States for a week. He did see the GP & after 6 months got a call to go to the local hospital.

I went with him & he had a general anaesthetic, was in surgery about an hour & we went home a couple of hours later, all they did was separate the bit that was attached & put in 2 stitches. After about 5 weeks he'd healed & could get the foreskin to retract but it was still tight to get back & we had to use lube to help ease it back. It never got so it would just retract by itself. It always needed assistance & was still tight round the glans.

All was well until after about 9 months he seemed to mentally change - he started flirting with women, grew in confidence & eventually he found someone else. He is now not the guy I knew or loved - he acts like he's god's gift to women, he's had his ear pierced (which he couldn't bear the thought of before), changed his lifestyle completely & acts like he's 20 something again.

Good luck to him I suppose in trying to catch up on all those lost years. Would he have stuck with his ex-wife from 17 if he wasn't so embarrassed & she lived with it. I couldn't live with it & tried to support & help but in the end feel cheated. I fixed his sex life & he walked away with a big grin.

Just a message to the guys & their partners to really talk through how it might change things. It did change our sex life marvellously but I didn't bargain for the change it would bring about in him & he didn't either.