This site discusses phimosis in its specific forms of phimotic ring, frenulum breve, adhesions or skinbridges. During erection these conditions inhibit the relationship between foreskin and glans. This functionally restricts the erection, and thus has an effect on the sexuality. With our culture's attitudes on health care, it would be appropriate to monitor boys before puberty and encourage early prevention.

2012 : note from author: My previous idea of monitoring boys before puberty is impractical, unecessary and now only of historical interest. please see Postscript.

updates and supporting education on new site : Phimosis.cloud

BRUTE FORCE - stretching by tugging

All too frequently it is thought that forcefully retracting the foreskin will cure phimosis.A great many extra childhood problems are caused by this inappropriate medical intervention

ex.7 "The first 10 years of my life were punctuated by occasional episodes of pure hell (painful infected penis, or embarrassment & terror caused by clumsy, insensitive doctors who yanked the foreskin back while muttering about smegma & my need to be circumcised) followed by months of inattention (benign neglect?)."

e.g.8 "The doctor told my mother that my foreskin would have to be retracted and stretched daily but after a few days my mother gave up because I couldn't bear the pain and kept on crying. So, any treatment was forgotten and I continued to grow up with my phimosis."

e.g.9 "The pains I suffered by the doctor who was trying to retract my foreskin were very extreme, I remember especially one occasion when I was five years old. At this point he suggested a circumcision but wanted to retry it once more, I myself was never asked,"

e.g.10 "Today I was watching my husband pulling our son's foreskin, his delicate skin formed tiny tears and started bleeding. We were instructed to do this by our pediatrician. I was mortified. .... I came across your website, and am very happy to have found it. We have noticed our son naturally stretching his penis- we never knew why. Now we do. - We just want to thank you."

Speaking of a 2 yr. old e.g.11 "I took him to his pediatrician who forcefully pulled back his foreskin and advised me to continue this practice. My husband did so twice but it seemed to cause my son so much pain that I insisted that we stop. I contacted the pediatrician again and he stood by his recommendation - Since reading your info, I have encouraged him to pull forward on the foreskin."

I believe this is all an unfortunate reflection of our cultures attitude to pain and male genitals. Though certainly an exception, one father (incidently a plumber!) justified the effects of stretching his sons foreskin as follows, "a bit of pain never hurt anyone - he also howls when he goes to the dentist".

The pain inflicted on boys who have their foreskins tugged at and forecefully retracted leaves very strong traumatic memories. The use of force is astounding for any intelligent medical care: the effect of pain is to build fear about exactly what we are trying to achieve: uninhibited and natural retraction of the foreskin.
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