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Re: Erection problem

Written by Paul B. at 02 Apr 2001 23:22:13:

As an answer to: Re: Erection problem written by Guzo at 02 Apr 2001 16:33:28:

> I can't get erected after just thinking something hot!! I need
> someone (women only!) to touch it! isn't that a problem?

It's certainly odd, but only a problem insofar as it stops you doing
something. Young chaps are sometimes troubled by erections which are
too easy to start, so in that sense, it might be a good thing. However
your difficulty in keeping the erection to have intercourse does
appear to be a major problem.

>> too much of the first is *most* unlikely to put you off the
>> second).
> what do u mean?

I mean that masturbating too often (which you say you do not do "too
often" anyway) is most unlikely to make you lose interest in your
girlfriend, more likely to keep you interested in fact. Masturbating
just before intercourse is one useful suggestion for chaps who have
premature ejaculation, but if it is any significant time (few hours)
earlier, it often doesn't even slow them down when you want it to.

> of course but couldn't some things make me feel more hot?
> royal jelly?

But you are *not* a honeybee, and what it does for honeybees has no
real connection with feeling randy in the first place. No-one would
have any reason to suggest it would - unless in point of fact, they
wanted to make a fanciful story to sell a product. It's commonly
referred to as "snake oil" (or in Australia, "goanna oil").

Making someone feel or act better by giving them something that has no
actual effect is referred to as a "placebo". It sometimes does work
of course, which suggests that their problem was going to improve
sooner or later anyway.

> even (when) I get erected...with the ways I have said...it's usual
> for me to lose that erection! so?

So you either get some Viagra from the doctor when you have the blood
test, or you consider the other half of my previous suggestions
regarding anxieties in the relationship and the possibility of
depression, and perhaps see a doctor with some psychiatric competence.

You might also care to explain how long you have had this current
problem, and whether you have had previous successful relationships
(in the sense of intercourse) and what in general you have done,
sexually, in the past ten years.


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