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Re: Question for Robin about my 11 month old son....

Written by RJK at 22 Mar 2000 23:59:22:

As an answer to: Question for Robin about my 11 month old son.... written by Marnie at 22 Mar 2000 18:20:15:

Marnie, I realize you sent this question to Robin, not me, but inasmuch as it's on the open forum I'm going to take the opportunity to say a couple of things, like them or not. To begin with, it's long past the time for feeling awful about what you did to your baby, if there ever was such a time. You did what you did because at the time you must have felt it was in his best interests (or maybe in accordance with his father's wishes, which his father felt were in his best interests), and if the damned skin bridges hadn't developed the whole episode would be forgotten by now. At this point, instead of feeling awful, it is up to you to decide where to go with the problem from here, to end it. What is needed, looking at things from my corner (and, hopefully, from the child's point of view), is to get rid of the skin bridges (not hope they'll go away or hope you can get rid of them with an ointment), let the kid heal up, (which will take an amazingly short time) and FORGET THE WHOLE THING! I mean, FORGET IT! (Not continue to discuss it and mourn over it for the rest of time. Some of us [90 million Ameericans] are circumcised and some are not, but very few of us make a lifelong hobby of obsessing over it.) This (getting rid of the bridges quickly)is in your baby's interests and in yours in the short and long run. You could continue to wring your hands, cry and moan, and do nothing until he's 20 years old. This would be a cruelly stupid way to go. It would not make him (or you!) a happier or healthier person. What you can do now (dare I say must do now?), and should if your interest is truly in helping the boy and not in moping about in the slough of despond, is to go to a physician you can trust, and GET THE PROBLEM TAKEN CARE OF, FINISHED. DO IT!!!
Best wishes, sincerely, Robert Knight.


question in the other forum and was helped tremendously by other posters, but I have a question that I thought you could answer since you seem so very knowledgable on the subject. My son was circ'd and now has adhesions (skin bridges?)-- one or the other. Anyway, someone on another site recommended a steroid cream to break the adhesions, while another person on the same site argued that the steroid cream would not work since my son has "circumcised" adhesions, versus "natural" ones. Do you know what the difference is? Is it true that his "circumcised" adhesions will not break on their own the way "natural" adhesions do?
>Any information you may have on this would be greatly appreciated. I'm so very worried about my son and feel absolutely awful that I've inflicted this condition on him.
>Thank you in advance for you help.
>--Marnie


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