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Physically normal, but......

Written by Paul B. at 20 Apr 2001 00:30:19:

As an answer to: I'm normal, but...... written by Steve (UK) at 19 Apr 2001 22:55:57:

> I posted a while ago and was advised to see a urologist,

Under what name and heading? Last Steve posted was circumcised.

> My problem is that I have NEVER retracted my foreskin,

Without the benefit of the previous explanation to hand, Why not?

> have a super-hyper-sensetive glans but have no infections, fathered
> five children, no pain during intercourse, no pain urinating.

This and all that follows can be summarised as:

* You have a snug foreskin that doesn't pull back unless you do so
deliberately. It is unclear whether it actually does so when you thrust
during intercourse, but if so it apparently recoils and recovers so it
doesn't concern you, which is a normal function and makes intercourse
smoother and more comfortable for the wife.

* The doctor examined you in a perfectly straightforward and professional
manner, which was not painful.

* You exhibited substantial anxiety about having your foreskin retracted.

* The doctor pointed out that you have a perfectly normal and healthy (it
is indeed normal to be healthy, problems here are quite unusual) foreskin.

> But where does this leave me?

You appear to have a substantial neurosis. Have you some history of
sexual molestation as a child perchance? I'm not just being flippant, you
do seem to have a quite troublesome fixation on your foreskin and its
function, and fantasies regarding circumcision which as the doctor points
out, is entirely inappropriate.

You also appear to have a variety of inconsistencies in your story as related,
such as "never" retracting but having a "super-hyper-sensetive glans" but
having no problems with sex anyway. This substantiates the previous
observation.

The physical aspect of your situation, that of a sensitive glans, is
readily dealt with by the simple expedient of retracting to urinate and
to shower, as I have pointed out in earlier postings. Beyond that, a
sensitive glans is no more a problem than it is for the vast majority of
women who have exactly that.

If you cannot obtain sufficient reassurance here, your next reasonable step
would be to ask about for a good counsellor or psychiatrist with a track
record in the field of sexual counselling.


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