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Re: I'm normal, but......

Written by RJK at 20 Apr 2001 17:12:05:

As an answer to: I'm normal, but...... written by Steve (UK) at 19 Apr 2001 22:55:57:

>I posted a while ago and was advised to see a urologist, but my dad died recently and my willy didn't seem so important.......
>Anyway, I finally saw the urologist today and I'm not quite sure what to think. My problem is that I have NEVER retracted my foreskin, have a super-hyper-sensetive glans but have no infections, fathered five children, no pain during intercourse, no pain urinating.


>They doc asked my more or less the above and popped me on the table, pants off, assuring me he wasn't going to hurt me.
>Well, he did, he basically held my penis and pulled the foreskin back, after I said I couldn't do it. I panicked, he said to relax, and did it again.
>I was arced against the bed, my fists plunged into the wall over my head. But I have to say it didn't ACTUALLY hurt. It felt REALLY wrong, almost like the stories of people having their eyes popped out onto their cheeks, etc. The nearest sensation I can compare it with is that of drowning, I have a fear of water and was thrown into the deep end at school to force me to swim and thats the nearest thing I can this allude to.
>It didn't hurt, but it I felt really exposed, really open and vulnerable.
>Afterwards the doc tells me my foreskin is normal, not long, not tight at all, completely normal. No infection, no smegma, no smell. He assured me he retracted it fully with no problem ie tightness or phimosis or Frenulum Breve or anything. I am totally normal.
>But where does this leave me. Neither here nor there. Doc says he'll give me some anaesthesic cream for my glans buts that's it. No circ, or dorsal cut.
>I should be happy, but I'm not, because I still have the same problem, hyper-sensitivity of the glans and a fear of glans exposure.
>Doc assures me I'm normal, lots of guys don't retract their foreskin but is that true? I have intercourse normally but if a woman wants to masturbate me it's fearful because she more than likely pulls my skin to quickly down and I recoil in apparent pain. Same with oral sex.
>Advice please!
>Steve
Steve, it sounds from what the doctor told you that your problem is not physical, particularly since there's no tight foreskin, no smegma and no nasty smell. There isn't much question, however, that you have a definite psychological problem in your reluctance to retract the foreskin & possibly your hypersensitivity, although that may just be the direct result of never pulling the foreskin back & so exposing the glans to the open air. If you can force yourself to retract the foreskin, keep it back for a short time, then allow it to slip forward again, repeating this action from 5 to 10 times every day, you should soon overcome your problem. If you can't bring yourself to do this on your own, and stick to it until you feel better about yourself, you probably could be helped by psychological counselling. I hope you can work this out for yourself soon. Good luck! rjk.


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