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Written by Steve (UK) at 20 Apr 2001 18:18:04: Re: Physically normal, but......
As an answer to: Physically normal, but...... written by Paul B. at 20 Apr 2001 00:30:19:
>> I posted a while ago and was advised to see a urologist,
> Under what name and heading? Last Steve posted was circumcised.UK dude
>> My problem is that I have NEVER retracted my foreskin,
> Without the benefit of the previous explanation to hand, Why not?
>> have a super-hyper-sensetive glans but have no infections, fathered
>> five children, no pain during intercourse, no pain urinating.
> This and all that follows can be summarised as:
>* You have a snug foreskin that doesn't pull back unless you do so
>deliberately. It is unclear whether it actually does so when you thrust
>during intercourse, but if so it apparently recoils and recovers so it
>doesn't concern you, which is a normal function and makes intercourse
>smoother and more comfortable for the wife.
>* The doctor examined you in a perfectly straightforward and professional
>manner, which was not painful.
>* You exhibited substantial anxiety about having your foreskin retracted.
>* The doctor pointed out that you have a perfectly normal and healthy (it
>is indeed normal to be healthy, problems here are quite unusual) foreskin.
>> But where does this leave me?
> You appear to have a substantial neurosis. Have you some history of
>sexual molestation as a child perchance? I'm not just being flippant, you
>do seem to have a quite troublesome fixation on your foreskin and its
>function, and fantasies regarding circumcision which as the doctor points
>out, is entirely inappropriate.You are not the first to suggest that, but honestly I haven't. I have two brothers with no problems such as mine and as far as I know, no molestations.
My childhood was excellent, if with a little poverty. I do know my parents never instructed me to clean my penis by pulling the foreskin back. I just sort of hoped the bath water would magically go inside my foreskin!> You also appear to have a variety of inconsistencies in your story as related,
>such as "never" retracting but having a "super-hyper-sensetive glans" but
>having no problems with sex anyway. This substantiates the previous
>observation.Yes, got me there! When erect, it goes back and exposes the tip (about a quarter of the glans). If I touch it (certainly accidently - I don't want to) it hurts like hell, or I think it does. I know it's a psychological thing.
> The physical aspect of your situation, that of a sensitive glans, is
>readily dealt with by the simple expedient of retracting to urinate and
>to shower, as I have pointed out in earlier postings. Beyond that, a
>sensitive glans is no more a problem than it is for the vast majority of
>women who have exactly that.
> If you cannot obtain sufficient reassurance here, your next reasonable step
>would be to ask about for a good counsellor or psychiatrist with a track
>record in the field of sexual counselling.Thanks for that, I see what the doc says