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Careful of doctors

Written by Paul B. at 27 Apr 2001 00:11:06:

As an answer to: Shit scared of doctors written by Jamie at 26 Apr 2001 22:26:44:

> I have phimosis/frenulum breve and am desperate to get it rectified

So you came here eh? Well, we probably can help. If you want to go with
that and have my suggestions, please start by reading all my posts
here and the posts to which they in turn, reply. Then, as you indicate you
don't know which problem you have, describe in detail what your foreskin
will or won't do, and what measures you have taken so far. Then we
can assess what the problem is.

> but I am too embarassed to go to a doctor. I have planned on going
> for a few years now but keep putting it off. The main reason is
> because I know an erection will occur under examination, I can`t
> control it at all.

Ah, to be so young! Fact is, it probably wouldn't, but if it did, it would
be quite helpful for him/ her in assessing how retractable your foreskin is.
Admittedly, not all doctors are ideal, and a good reason you
might not want to see a doctor in America, if that is where you are, is
that as a result of the past popularity of ritual circumcision, few know
much about foreskin problems and most may quite inappropriately
suggest circumcision simply because it seems to them to get you "fixed"
without any effort or mental/ diagnostic challenge on their part.

> it is now getting me depressed as I can`t have any sex life.

This gets closer to the root of the problem. It is absurd to say either you
don't or can't have sex because your foreskin won't pull back. It is a
childhood myth/ urban myth if you like. There must be millions of men
(really, truly!) who can't retract their foreskin but have never realised
this was a problem and of course have had wives, fathered (big?) families
and felt perfectly happy about it.

And one further thing - surely you aren't going to tell me you don't
masturbate? I, and most others, call that "sex" (or practice for same).

Your problem is that you are depressed, have not made friendships (including
with girls) and are blaming it on a minor physical aberration. Perhaps you
need antidepressant treatment. Nevertheless, perhaps also we can get you to
sort out the physical problem and if you will agree to "lose" the problem,
either you will feel so much better about it that it gives you a boost
and kicks you out of the depression, or you can go to the doctor about the
depression without having to account (truthfully) for the factor you blame
for it.

> I am 20 yrs old.

Noted.

OK, I for one (and plenty others) am listening; give us the detail. If you
can do so, I can probably give you a good forum link to a discussion that
matches your query, as well as a stock site. Of course I assume you've
already browsed the site which hosts this forum for information on this
problem?


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