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Written by Hal at 20 May 2001 17:20:42: Re: Exposing the glans: potential problems? plusses!
As an answer to: Re: Exposing the glans: potential problems? written by Paul B. at 26 Apr 2001 13:24:46:
>> My glans is too sensitive and I can't penetrate a vagina because of
>> it.
> I have come to believe that the answer to this is: "Well now you know
>how a girl feels!". I shall explain . . .
>> If I grit my teeth and persist, the pain will make me lose my
>> erection.
> What for you is an erection, for the girl is lubrication. A girl really
>needs to get "wet" before she has intercourse. If she's wearing undies,
>there should be a sticky, damp patch on them, and if she's not, then
>you should have got a sticky, damp hand when you felt her there!
> Point is, if she's not wet, it's likely to make her sore and the more
>sore she gets, the less likely she is to get or stay wet, and so it
>gets worse instead of better.
> Now, in your case, if she was both wet and relaxed, your penis would
>probably be able to slip in without the foreskin retracting, but if she
>is not wet, and tenses up, the only way you can get in is by being wet
>(lubricated) inside your foreskin and letting your foreskin unfurl as
>the wet part goes in.
>> I am uncircumsised and my whole life I have kept my glans behind the
>> foreskin.
> Even when masturbating, eh?
>> It's only recently that I have started sexual activity and realised
>> that the foreskin can retract so much!
> And your girlfriend is new to it too? That may (but not necessarily)
>mean she's not quite used to getting wet, or at least is nervous and
>inhibited about being fully aroused with you and as part of the
>nervousness is holding her vagina particularly tight (there's a medical
>term for it).
>> Then I find out that my glans is so sensitive that I can't even
>> thrust my penis forward.
> Even slowly? Very slowly? Guys, especially young but plenty older also,
>often think intercourse is all about madly thrusting as fast as possible.
>That's simply called being in too much of a hurry. There is no reason
>you can't tackle is slowly. Ask your girlfriend if she really expects
>you to go fast, or does she just like you being there? No hurry.
>> Even fellatio gives me more discomfort than pleasure.
> Tell me, what does she say when you do the same to her? If you lick
>her clitoris directly as the first thing - does she say "Oooh, harder!",
>or does she actually say "Oh, gentle, gentle!"? What I am pointing out
>is that most girls are extremely sensitive in the same place, so you
>should not be at all surprised that you are and it is really normal.
>> So on the advice of a friend, I am trying to expose my glans
>> fulltime to decrease it's sensitivity.
> Fascinating how people always have to go to extremes! That's almost
>the same advice as saying you need to be circumcised, because then it
>would get used to being exposed (yes it would, very fast, and with
>maximum discomfort in the process, and lose a lot of the sensitivity you
>likely wanted).
>> However, I've noticed that the corona of the glans is turning blue
>> at the end of the day
> It's getting cold! I doubt that is it. When I was in first yr high (65 yrs ago) I was fascinated by the nuances of color in the glans of the 90% of the guys in my gym class that were circed, whereas mine when exposed was plain pink. I trained the foreskin to remain back and have worn it that way since, with the exception of 3 or 4 mos about a year ago just to check out the "intacters" claims. The glans got moist and shiny. I had more sensitivity as in "ouch" or don't and no better orgasm attainment. YHe glans has the proper sensitivity to handle good sexual action when exposed to the air after adulthood
There is no way for urine that comes after you shake it a few times to noy end up soaking into both foreskin and glans and be not removable by washing.I am currently back to wearing the foreskin retracted. Wear it bare proudly. enjoy that beautifully designed glans. The way it wants to overcenter and remain exposed as an adult!
As far as the "gliding mechanism" intacters own research indicate possibly only those with an extreme foreskin (I think half) actually have this happen. If you want gliding mechanism use your hand and don't bother with intercourse! Even then you may find, as I do that a good thumb and fingers behind the corona combined with the vigorous motion that the "keratinized" glans can handle provides far stronger feelings.
Go for it: wear it bare!
>> and I can see veins underneath.
> That's because it is used to being covered, and delicate.
>> So my question is, what are the potential problems that can arise if
>> I try retracting my foreskin twenty four hours a day and exposing my
>> glans?
> I would surmise that it would become less and less sensitive, perhaps
>too insensitive eventually.
> Point is, you don't need to do it. You do need to get your glans used
>to being exposed when it needs to, not all the time. Just make a point
>of retracting (fully) when you pee, when you shower, and whatever other
>time it is appropriate (which is a subtle way of saying, when you
>masturbate, not necessarily to orgasm).
> Now, correct me if I'm wrong, but if your girlfriend is new to it and
>you are new to it you can keep trying, but you really need to get some
>"personal lubricant" from the pharmacy (drugstore, supermarket etc.)
>and put it on your glans and some in her. I suspect you'll then find it is
>no longer too sore, and you really like it being stroked.
> Oh, you didn't mention using a condom, did you? How do you know it's
>safe not to? And by the way, if fellatio is too rough on you, try that
>with a condom (unlubricated, or perhaps flavoured, but you might also
>try lubricant inside only if you aren't wet at the time).