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Written by Paul B. at 27 May 2001 22:17:23: Re: Phimosis or not? That is the Question.
As an answer to: Re: Phimosis or not? That is the Question. written by John at 27 May 2001 15:17:09:
> As I cant retract my foreskin fully because of my frenulum, should it cause
> any discomfort when making love? (I havnt been with women yet)Maybe, maybe not. I'll take a dead bet that you masturbate. Presumably, you
have tried a technique in which you pull the foreskin back to expose the head
as part of each stroke? If this does not cause discomfort, then neither will
intercourse. If it does cause some mild discomfort, then there is merit in making
it a deliberate practice for the purpose of stretching the fraenulum. And if it
is too painful to enjoy, perhaps stretching as a separate procedure will be
preferable.Now while this is intended to give you some indication of intercourse, it is of
course a much more strenuous test of the fraenulum. Generally speaking, to have
such a tight grip on the skin as you use during masturbation would be a cause of
significant discomfort to the woman, who would much prefer to be well lubricated
in which case you are most likely going to slip in without enough drag to fully
retract the foreskin anyway.Now whether you will be satisfied with this is moot. I can only observe that there
are to my small experience, and must be overall a huge number of men who cannot
retract at all but are more than happy with their experience of intercourse and
see no reason to change. Those who are unhappy with such a situation on the other
hand, have some motivation to seek information such as on this forum.If you have primary but just not full retraction and no complaints during
masturbation, then you need expect no trouble with intercourse.> And which of the two (stretching or cutting) is the more preferable way?
It is perhaps a purist point to suggest stretching. Do not expect immediate or
particularly rapid results. Persistence is essential. If you do not make it a
target to achieve prior to intercourse, assuming some sort of agenda for the latter,
then it is not critical, just an optimisation. The only material objection to
surgery (apart from cost) is that you may be cutting a few nerves and lose some small
element of sensitivity there.Surgery may be appropriate if it is simply too tender to stretch at all or even
after successful stretching. I think you just have to "suck it and see".Incidental: Women not infrequently have the same problem when a web develops at
the back of the vagina after a birth injury (and repair thereof).