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Written by Paul B. at 24 Jul 2001 14:45:20: Re: need NRMA, sensitive glans
As an answer to: need hlp. sensitive glans written by Matthew at 24 Jul 2001 11:32:39:
Nothing you mention so far indicates any actual problem. Start by reading previous posts, particularly "sensitive glans"
by Nikos, and answers to various posts particularly by myself and "jim22" who does seem for his brusqueness, to know
what he's talking about. Essentially, the point is that your situation is no worse (or better) than most girls as regards
their clitoris.> I can press my finger on it but if I slide my finger along it kills.
Most girls/ women would say exactly the same. Would you claim there's something wrong with them? The essential
clue - and you will need to know this to have sex with a girl - is lubrication. You won't be able to stroke her until
she is wet - with her vaginal lubrication resulting from fondling by you. You should certainly not try to have
intercourse with her until she is likewise wet, and especially so with a condom, though in that case you may well have to
"cheat" by using an artificial lubricant. If in fact you do not get wet as a result of your play, you might need the
lubricant to comfortably apply the condom.> In the shower I pull my foreskin back and let the running water hit it and its fine,
And indeed it is.
> but when I touch it, it hurts.
As perhaps the inside of your eyelid if you touch that? It is perfectly normal, but with lubrication, you can
touch it.> This is a massive problem because at 24 I have not been able to have sex successfully yet. When a girl touches it
> I lose my erection and this is very embarrassing.You have a problem and it's technically called "performance anxiety". Problem is, you're approaching it like a bull at
the proverbial gate, because you are out to get instant satisfaction. You need instead to regard it as a pleasant
activity shared by two people who are intent on pleasuring each other and let me repeat that: each other.> I would like to know if there is anyone out there who can help me,
Sigh!
> Are there any creams or methods which I can use or do to make the head of my penis normal so anyone can fondle it.
It's called artificial lubricant. K-Y, Muko, various others, look in Woolies next to the condoms and you can even
get it musk flavoured (and others too!).> Ive seen a urologist and GP and that was an embarrassing waste of time.
OK, so I conclude that not every GP has a decent knowledge of sex. Sorry, but a lot of them just bulk-bill and you
don't expect much if you don't pay - this is a bit of a specialist field as GPs go. As to how or why you were
referred to a urologist - well, that just makes the GP look even dumber to me.Anyway, I'm not in Sydney, so I can't just say "drop on over and see me", so you'll just have to take my word for it here
- and pay $53 less. ;-)> Is there a type of specialist on this or phimosis or some type of doctor.
That sentence worries me a lot. Why would you mention phimosis, if it is totally unrelated to your problem? I really
think you need to read the posts here, then read them again, then a few times more until you understand the nature of
things. Go get the lube, warm it up, use lots and then come back and tell what you have found.