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sex at 55

Written by dave902 at 19 Aug 2001 14:25:38:

I'm 55 years old, married for 30 years, with grown up children. For about a year I've been unable to achieve an orgasm through normal intercourse ( I can still do it via masturbation). As a result of finding out about impotence I now realise that I have a very tight frenulum and phimosis - which will not allow my foreskin to retract much beyond the tip of the glans. Because of this I've always had sex with the glans remaining inside the foreskin. I've always thought this was a normal consequence of not being circumcised, but now I know it isn't. I guess that because of this I don't get as much stimulation as I should do. In the past I've still been able to reach an orgasm about 30% to 50% of the time but it has often been hard work that has left both of us a bit sore. My success rate has now dropped to zero. I know these problems could be corrected surgically but I would like some advice:

1) What chance is there that surgery ( cutting the frenulum and maybe dorsal slit ) would solve my problems. Could I expect to get greater stimulation if I was able to make love in the normal way with the foreskin retracted.

2) Because its never been exposed my glans is very sensitive, Will this be a problem.

3) I'd prefer to avoid surgery on the foreskin if possible. What is the chance of the conservative treatment for phimosis ( stretching & steroid cream ) working for someone of my age. It is usually used for much younger people and skin becomes less elastic as you get older.

4) Should I just accept that I've got to the end of my sex life and take up golf? To what age can you expect to enjoy sex? Is it different for a woman?

Keep up the good work!


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