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Written by Roger at 29 Aug 2001 17:48:48: Re: Sensitive Glans
As an answer to: sensitive glans written by Richard at 21 Aug 2001 11:08:19:
Hey Rick,
I'm now 30 years old and I went through the same thing you are going through, and actually, I've only progressed a little more than where you're at, hence the reason I'm at this site, looking for answers and ideas.
I'm uncirc'd too and when I first starting having sex at age 19 and too many times to count after that, I too have experienced tightness, hyper-sensitivety on the penis head, and I also bought the same desensitizing ointment/cream that you bought to see if that would help.
On the one hand, it did. I was able to have sex without the pain caused by sensitivety and tightness of the foreskin, but on the other hand, you don't feel anyhting, pretty much, so it's not really a solution. I have gone to see a couple of very insensitive Urologists before about it. One of them used a laser to burn back a bit of the frenulum, which helped a bit, but again, it's still sensitive and getting oral sex from a girlfriend has still been awkward. Especially since a lot of girls, it seems, must have been with guys who are circumcised, because they just don't seem to know that really yanking on your John Thomas isn't the most pleasurable experience. Anyway, I don't want to get circumcised. I'd prefer to stick with what nature seems to have known best to give me. I've always cleaned it, never had problems with phimosis or blantis(?), other than the odd infection here and there. But what I found most helpful is that, like what the other guys suggested, I've gotten more used to handling the exposed glans, touching it, both when flacid, cleaning it, and when erect, masterbating. I reccomend trying a lubricant too. I use a product called "Wet".
It's water-based and pretty good. There are plenty of different ones out there.
You can get it in an erotic-type store. I used to feel more embarrased to walk in than I used to. A lot of the sensitivety thing has to do with getting used to it being touched, not doing away with the sensitivety. Sensitivety is good. You want to feel all you can in sex, or just when you are handling it yourself.
I've found that it takes time, and it also stretches the more I keep at it. I couldn't stand the idea of touching my eyeball when I first got contact lenses, but now it's no big deal. The sensitivety is still there, but I allow myself to not panic and freak out when I touch it. Same goes for the penis glans.
Hope this helps.