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Re: HELP!

Written by Paul B. at 21 Sep 2001 22:53:23:

As an answer to: HELP! written by Rob at 21 Sep 2001 18:54:32:

> Hi, I'm 25 and have been unable to retract my foreskin for as long as I can remember.

Bummer! Should have been trying since age 3. When did you realise it should retract?

> It looks all shrivelled up with a little nose at the end.

Sounds tight. Nevertheless, you need to try retracting it as the first approximation, even if you did end up needing preputioplasty, because stretching does work.

> I have a very understanding Girl, and as long as we take it fairly easy, sex is no problem.

Can I ask for a bit more detail here? What happens if you don't "take it easy" - what is the problem?

> After lots of sex, the foreskin stretches a little, but no where near enough to come back over the head.

Well, much as lots of sex is nice, it isn't going to fix everything. (;-) You need to do the retraction separately, though your understanding Girl could certainly do it with you and that would probably be helpful as for example, stretching it back so you see the tip and holding it there for some minutes whilst you have an erection, is the best manoeuvre to start with, though you need to do it a few times a day, so she probably wouldn't be in a position to do it all with you! I am however sure you could figure out some exercise for her to do whilst holding it back, that would keep you erect. Tongue perhaps?

> Over the past few months I have also had a few probs getting and staying hard,

Any other things happening in the relationship/ your life?

> and I have been wondering if this may be related to my foreskin 'restricting" my erection,

For your age, no reason this should happen. I mean how tight is it - surely it can't be uncomfortable (unless you are pulling it back hard)?

> or being afraid that it might rip.

Now that's the clue, the fear might cause the erection problem. But how real is it? What has happened that might give you the concern it could rip?

> has anyone undergone any surgery or treatment to successfully correct this?

At least one fellow was on this forum a while back, possibly back in the archives now. Had a preputioplasty, works fine! Take a long read. Those who successfully stretched, don't come here as often (why would they?).

> I have been considering it but dont know where to start.

Start with the stretching. Realise it takes a fair while, but you've got plenty of time. If you have problems with the "Girl", this will be a minor factor; any relationship which dissolves over some little physical problem - was not going to hold anyway. A bit callous? Why do I say this? Because of one simple fact - in life there are always going to be such problems. Always!


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