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Re: all sorts of trouble

Written by Richard at 01 Oct 2001 15:31:03:

As an answer to: all sorts of trouble written by nick at 01 Oct 2001 12:05:17:

Hi Nick

If you've just got here, welcome. As you can probably imagine, most people who read this forum have been through something similar to what you describe. I've not been here long myself, and there are others here who are perhaps better prepared to offer advice on the physical side of things. If you read down the list of posts perhaps you'll find some ideas about how to go about things without needing to be circumcised.

Three years ago I was in the same kind of frame of mind. But the first thing to get your head round is that things can get better, and they will do if you take positive steps to make them so. I didn't lose my virginity until I was 22, and it was very painful. But with the help of a very understanding girlfriend I stretched my foreskin so that it now "works properly". I'm now 26, and though I'm single again I find it much easier to feel positive about my penis. I am very glad that I didn't get circumcised at the time.

I'm just saying this to try and show you how you can feel better about yourself. For me, the psychological barriers to doing something about my tight foreskin were greater than the physical ones. It's quite understandable that your glans is "too sensitive"; if you get it used to being "in the open air" it will come round to the idea. And the "overhang" you describe will change too, so that the foreskin doesn't always completely cover the glans.

Remember, you can go and talk to your doctor about it. They *have* seen it all before and there's really no need to be embarrassed. I was too embarrassed to see my GP though, so instead I went to the Genito-Urinary clinic at my local hospital. Be prepared for a knee-jerk response to send you for circumcision, and instead tell the doctor that you've read about alternative, less radical treatments which you'd like to try.

Try to think a bit more positively about things. It sounds simplistic, but just making the effort to think about ways in which *you, yourself* can make your penis function as you'd like it to is the first step to getting out of depression and incessant worry. Then perhaps rather than doing self-destructive things like seeing prostitutes you'll feel more able to contemplate a loving relationship.

Hope that helps,

Richard

>hi, im in trouble, at 26 i have no answers and have all but given up on myself. i have several problems, i have a long foreskin.about 1 inch overhang when hard, its hard to pull back and when i get it back its all bunched up around the shaft just under the head, its tight and rolls back as soon as i let go. the head of my penis is sooo sensitive i cant even touch it. never had sex, been to brothels several times and all failures.im scared to get circumsised cause the head is just toooo sensitive.can i de-sensitise it?with a cream or spray, i cant keep an erection, probably performance anxiety.even took a 50ml viagra tablet before seeing a call girl, it was rock hard until she tried to put the condom on. then i lost it for good, by the way, never been able to get a condom on. if i cant meet a girl and fall in love and have a family theres no point living. cant keep a girlfriend if i cant have sex with her. extremely depressed.


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