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Sands of Time

Written by Paul B. at 22 Nov 2001 21:39:53:

As an answer to: Re: Stretching written by steve at 22 Nov 2001 15:21:31:

> ... the hourglass type effect ... if this is ever gonna stretch because the rest of it seems to have.

Actually, this would appear to be within the normal, functional, range of things already, and if as you seem to be saying it is not uncomfortable at all, could be simply ignored. If however, you regard this as a cosmetic problem, or desire to have the fully-sliding foreskin option (which some men do, some don't), then certainly do stretch it further to achieve this.

The site to which I usually refer, is as I write this, off-line, but I will point out some relevant pictures when I can find them.

> perhaps im a bit impatient ive only been doing it for 3 weeks!

Well, as Jim says in reply, that's really terrific progress, but that's because you are in the first place young, and you have obviously "got the message" about doing it with diligence (doing it often) and persistence (doing it again and again until it obeys). What I have already pointed out remains true, you need to keep stretching, perhaps using a different technique to over-stretch this particular part, for a couple of months, even though you have rapidly achieved the first, (actually, virtually complete) step.

The point is that we know that stretching works. Now you know that it works. It is amusing, and sad, that you didn't realise that not only do you know it works, but that you had completely and irrevocably proven your doctor wrong.

This is terribly sad, because quite rightly, people expect their doctors to be right, they need to have faith in them and their ability to help them. I can only say in defence of doctors, that this demonstrates how powerful is the need to self-justify in the face of something one cannot alter. The doctor you went to, and the one that "AJ", the poster above who is so desperately enthusiastic about circumcision, went to, and now "AJ" himself, were all circumcised. They all have a real psychological need to feel that they were circumcised because there was some genuine reason for it, either that it was "cleaner", more fashionable, or that they had phimosis and there was no other way to fix that.

You, and the thousands like you who have simply - stretched their foreskin so that it works properly, are a great thorn in their collective sides. You are living proof that the dogma "It Can Only be Cured by Circumcision" is completely false. Their response is generally to argue harder and harder that they were right despite the evidence. It's sad, it's perverse but remember they are circumcised, and they know that they can't reverse that fact, so they have to believe that it was inevitable to feel at all happy with their situation. It's very, very personal, so one must forgive them, even those of them who are doctors, and are giving out totally wrong advice as a result.

Incidentally, because the process of stretching does work, someone who was circumcised can to a substantial extent repair the damage and re-form a mostly functional foreskin. Jim, in particular, has done just that, so he knows it works too! However, again sadly, those (doctors) who don't believe, despite the articles they read about plastic surgical techniques (stretching the scalp to obtain hair cover, re-forming breast shape after mastectomy, scar re-shaping, using appliances to do this despite AJ's dire warnings about doing so) that skin stretching is a viable technique, deny themselves this possibility in the process.


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