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Unstressed

Written by Paul B. at 27 Nov 2001 13:00:42:

As an answer to: stressed written by Mick at 27 Nov 2001 10:39:23:

As with most questions, the answer has already been written or at least, most of it.

> I have a long foreskin,

I think you mean to say, you have a foreskin.

> pulls back when soft but when hard it goes back with some effort

Needs plenty of practice. Pull it back often, every morning when you wake with an erection, every time you go to pee (urinate), when you masturbate too.

> but bunches up around the base of the head.

Needs more stretching - as above.

> Then goes back over on its own, wont stay.

Ah well, that's why you have two hands!

> The head is very sensitive, can I de-sensitise it?

You would want to make it less sensitive? Really?

> Im 21 and a virgin.

'S OK.

> Also I wonder, how can I receive oral sex.

You need to have a girl who likes you a real lot. And I mean a real lot. Given she likes you so much she wants to have sex with you, she puts your penis carefully (without touching it with her teeth) into her mouth and carefully strokes it with her tongue, gently sucking. That's what oral sex is. And I think a fair deal is that if she is going to do that for you, you should be doing the corresponding thing for her. It's really hard to say which is nicer!

> The foreskin is hard to get back and wont stay there,

And that, as they say, is precisely why a girl has two hands!

> head is extremely sensitive

As I pointed out in my previous answer, you obviously have no knowledge of girls at all, or you would immediately understand that is exactly what their clitoris is like and you just don't get girls saying "Oh dear, my clitoris is too sensitive, what can I do?"

> and I also have performance anxiety.

It shows. Performance anxiety in this context is cured by having a loving partner who helps you realise that sex is not a performance. Once you realise that, performance anxiety does not exist. If that is difficult to follow, then I will re-phrase it: It doesn't matter what happens when you have sex, as long as you enjoy each other.


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