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Beware, take care,. . .

Written by Paul B. at 03 Dec 2001 12:48:30:

As an answer to: This is a fantastic site written by Matt at 03 Dec 2001 03:25:03:

> who has had sex numerous times previously, but never really on a regular basis, because of the pain involved.

But since you masturbate OK, why does intercourse actually cause problems?

> However now I'm in a fairly long term relationship.

Fairly? (;-)

> but then I noticed a different, sharper pain, which must have been the frenulum stretching.
> ... an intense pain, and when I stopped I noticed a lot of blood.

I have pointed this out before, but this experience is what is traditionally expected by girls. What does this: "Furthermore, this mostly happens unsolicited, during the first sexual encounter. A moment of great alarm follows for both participants at the resultant bleeding." ... sound like, if not the description of rupture of the hymen?

> Now the next day, it's still slightly painful, but there's no bleeding, and everything seems OK.

Still reminiscent of the girls . . .

> In fact, my foreskin seems to fit over my glans better than before.

Hmmmmm . . .

> I'm planning to get an appointment with a doctor, just to have things checked out professionally,

Why? What's the point?

> I just want to know if everyone here thinks surgery is necessary in my case,

OK. You are going to get a reply from one poster, "of the Green-eyed dragon with the 13 tails", telling you to go to the doctor, and get circumcised straight away so as to get it over with.

Another will tell you to seriously consider it.

The rest of us are going to point out, as we mostly always do, that you have now stretched your foreskin to near-normal (near-optimal) dimensions, and it is working fine as you describe it. That as sometimes happens, you had a short fraenulum which you have dealt with in the "traditional" manner by breaking it, just as a girl is traditionally expected to break her hymen (though as a result of tampon wearing and possibly masturbation, not so many do nowadays). So why would what's good for the goose, not be so for the gander?

Just as a girl's hymen, it will heal, perhaps quicker if you leave off the heavy manoeuvres, but frankly, it may not stop you and if it does not, well, little matter.

So, why you need to go to a doctor and pay money to be told this, one must ask?

There is a specific danger, that if you go to a doctor whose greed exceeds his education and ethics (they usually are co-travellers, as it happens), he may enlist you in some sort of surgery to cut your fraenulum some more, or, threatening in dire terms a never-ending cycle of the problems you have now resolved, a full circumcision so that you can have mindless sex like the majority of hick Americans.

> or can the frenulum be stretched through exercise,

Well, you tell us. Is it stretched now?

Did you not read this previous posting before writing this?

> and further sex with my very understanding girlfriend?

Mmmm! (;-)


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