[ ARC forum 2 ]
Written by Paul B. at 09 Jan 2002 22:02:48: Re: Fraenuloplasty vs. fraenulum division
As an answer to: Re: Fraenuloplasty vs. fraenulum division written by Steven at 09 Jan 2002 18:49:22:
> Am I to assume ... that all the above procedures are legitimate solutions for a short frenulum
Oh, yes!
> and that, hopefully, the surgeon will perform which ever one is most appropriate in a particular case
To a limited extent, as he sees it.
> are some procedures better than others, either in terms of 'solution' or 'cosmetics/healing'.
I'm not overly sure. It would depend case-by-case, both on exactly what the complaint is, and how that matches what it looks like. I have little actual experience of it, because I have never had anyone complain to me of it (those I do see are in conjunction with specialist colleagues), which tends to indicate either that as a problem, it is extremely uncommon (albeit in a country where circumcision is still pretty common), or that most people don't deem it sufficient to complain about. You might suggest they are too embarrassed, but I'm not sure that explains the rarity.
> I would hate to think that I might just receive what a surgeon happens to know or prefer
To be honest, it would be trivia to them in most cases. It's tight, you cut it. Ten seconds in theatre (excluding anaesthesia and prep).
> rather than what is best in my case.
Certainly, do discuss it.
> To be honest tho', when you assume you have nothing wrong, you don't ... about how things could be different
So what is wrong, and what would you like to be different. You allude to pain, but don't say anything is actually painful?
> - and what you might be missing!
What do you think you are missing?
> Intercourse itself has always been very satisfying for me.
So?
> since I have been aware of my condition that I have been more prone to 'hold back'
But why?
> psychosexual effects of thinking about torn frenulums I guess!
Why after so much experience, does this idea come to you? Like a torn hymen, this is usually something that happens early on.
> I also know, from odd occasions when my foreskin has become trapped behind the glans
This intimates that you do not usually retract your foreskin. Is this it in a nutshell?
> I suspect that a lot of the time, intercourse has taken place without that level of retraction/ amount of movement.
But you are quite unsure?
>As for other things, particularly oral sex, then yes I think I have been >missing out
But why? How? Lack of oral sex is usually a relationship matter.
> Certainly since knowing of my condition (1 year ago), I am definetly more hesitant.
I really can't see why. It certainly does sound as if "a little knowledge is a dangerous thing" if as you say, you were quite happy before. Anyway, I suspect you'd be a candidate for stretching as Jim and I have been advocating below but if you have indeed suddenly become impatient after your 39 years, well ... (:-^)