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And possibly not!

Written by Paul B. at 28 Jul 2003 14:14:41:

As an answer to: quite possibly written by Aussie girl at 28 Jul 2003 03:45:28:

No AG, I don't actually think we are saying anything different, just a little matter of interpretation of the details(!).

Your fellow was 38, and you don't mention his sexual history, but I suspect he had a few years of at least attempting sex, and his complaint was specific - lack of sensation. And he could obviously retract his foreskin when not erect, which suggests to me he was at least used to retraction, and if so was not as sensitive as someone who could not retract at all (a pre-requisite for not being aware of the nature of the problem, which "Jay" implies).

So I think he was a different category - a different "stage" from his 14-year junior. If your friend indeed tended to lose erections, it was more likely because he anticipated "failure" on the basis of previous difficulty in achieving orgasm (and I also wonder whether his "never" was indeed "not ever", or "not recently"?). But in that case, I would have expected that he would more likely be unable to get an erection on the first place, than to "lose" it before you could orgasm. In addition, I suspect at the age of 38, he was a "late starter" for various reasons, of which the realisation that he had phimosis was perhaps one.

I do think "Jay", who is specifically describing loss of erection, is most likely encountering this soon after starting, because he is becoming nervous about the whole encounter, because at that age, it is rarely necessary to have much stimulation anyway, in order to ejaculate, and only a particularly strong anxiety is likely to suppress it.


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