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Written by Robin at 21 Aug 2003 19:25:54:

Well, I chose AJ mainly because his attitude is neither anti nor pro surgery. He shows an awareness of primary and secondary phimotic ring, and also frenulum breve, and that all these require different treatments.

Added to this, AJ writes thoughtfully and clearly, and he keeps cool, and he has the time/energy to take the job on. (From the others who came in question either they did not volunteer or wrote privatly that they didnt have time).

So far, I find he has made an excellant start on moderation and he has my full support!

I would then advise AJ in public: its a shame but when you take over the responsibility for admin., then you wont be able to contribute so much to individual threads. Dont let yourself get under pressure, there are enough thoughtful contributors to answer individual threads even if they take a day or 2 longer. Your job is to create an atmosphere where the more thoughtful person can have their say without getting back chat from the fanatics. And handling fanatics can be a nerve wracking job especially if you start giving them too many chances, so please dont be too lenient. - These days there are obviously enough moderate, more thoughtful people who would contribute once the fanatics have gone.

I believe your guidelines on using the forum are essential, except that I disagree with one point, as far as Im concerned.
All views are NOT welcome at this forum.

I would have made guideline 1. Anyone who (without valid references) discredits, insults and is obviously against the information on the home site should be banned.

There are hundreds of anti and pro-circ. sites, and they should set up their own forums so that men who share these perspectives can receive appropriate advice.
It seems that mine is still the only site directly concerned with foreskin problems, and maybe it seems paradoxical to some, but I believe we must CLOSE ourselves to the fanatics in order to retain our openness.
This forum should be a place for open minded people to conduct open discussions, where accurate diagnosis preceds a discussion of a variety of possible treatments, so that individuals can be advised optimally.

The insulting, discrediting and dismissing the HOMESITE and the 3rd. perspective then applies especially to Jim. This is easiest to prove to anyone by refering to the ADMIN. THREAD (to those concerned) 10205.htm : the second part of my first letter discusses Jims only accurate reference, then his short answer is followed by my summary of our previous exchanges and his answer again.

He shows he is totally unable to communicate on the subject and is unwilling to learn. He shows no awareness of the different types of phimotic ring, and has a ridiculous understanding of the mechanics of frenulum breve, yet he persists in recommending his one method of treatment with his autocratic attitude.

... If anyone else here does not understand the difference between the conditions and is giving advice on this forum, then its high time you researched in www.male-initiation.net/frenulum_breve.html and
www.male-initiation.net/phimosis_treatment.html
encouraging someone to stretch a primary phimotic ring is easy compared to trying to help someone to get appropriate minimal surgery for a secondary ring.
Therefore, I feel it is no great achievement that his or my advice on stretching has helped countless men, however his advice has also undoubtably frustrated a number of men!

The final decision is totally up to you AJ. However, I would ask that you ban Jim. This sort of fanatic is bad for this forum, I believe his attitude is fuelling a lot of the other problems with this forum, AND I believe he is putting off numerous potential more thoughtful contributors.

AJ, Im certain you are the right man for this job, I wish you well, I hope the other moderates will support you, for my part, whatever you do, however you want to do it you have my full support.

Please make this forum a place for open minded consideration.

Thanks
Robin


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