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Written by Ivan at 27 Oct 2003 15:47:21: Re: Tight foreskin = painful sex?
As an answer to: Tight foreskin = painful sex? written by noname at 27 Oct 2003 05:37:53:
>Dear all,
>Please advice. I am 25 year old male and never been in sexual contact. I will be merried in a month. I cannot reract my foreskin, though the exercises mentioned here have helped me a lot. My question is: During an intercource,
>does the friction cause the foreskin to retract forcebily? If so, it will definitely be painful and almost impossible. In short, is a non retractable foreskin an inhibitant to an intercource (sentivity issues apart). Apretiate the help.
>ThanksWith adequate lubrication - preferrably the kind both your body and hers produces - sex should not be too difficult. A mobile foreskin is of course optimal in that it both provides a lot of internal lubrication and the inner part seems slipperier when wet than the outer part. However, I have read many credible comments from men whose foreskins never retracted during sex who had no problem with intercourse. Make sure that she is sufficiently warmed up through foreplay that she is literally dripping wet. Optimal would be if she has already had at least one orgasm through your performing oral sex or masturbating her (but don't make it mechanical - it shouldn't be 'working the equipment' it should be 'making love').
Also, I should think that you would want to hold off on baby-making for a minimum of a year after the wedding - give yourselves time to learn to be together and explore each other as adult partners. So you will probably be wearing a condom which will pretty much alleviate the concerns about the foreskin getting pushed back behind the head. And keep working on the stretching exercises - hopefully you can enlist the assistance of the new Mrs.: after all your mobile foreskin will be a big benefit for her comfort and pleasure as well as hers (read Kirsten O'Hare's "Sex As Nature Intended It" for the details).