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Re: does it require attention?

Written by Ivan at 28 Oct 2003 22:27:08:

As an answer to: Re: does it require attention? written by Harmen at 28 Oct 2003 21:43:51:

>>> Harmen.. why do you say both man & woman will have more satisfaction? obviously the male will have more sensitivity, but as for the female???
>Sexual intercourse is not the only way to please each other. ‘Playing’ with his penis is normally possible in many ways including oral contacts. In the case of your friend that’s limited and I think it’s a pity. I don’t try to push you to irreversible actions, except of course the retractable foreskin. But I don’t like the comment not to worry. It’s not a normal situation and I would do everything to change it in a natural way.

I basically agree with this post of Harmen's, but I think we can add a few things. One thing you have to watch out for is when his foreskin has mostly grown out, but not quite enough to move comfortably. The tightest part of the foreskin can get pushed behind the head and stuck there. This is called paraphimosis. It does not require medical attention: the glans must be pressed in upon until it can slip back through the tight part of the foreskin. It's annoying enough for the guy if it happens during masturbation, but if you are about to see stars and he says "oops gotts fix my foreskin," you're going to scream, and not with passion.

Many women find sex much more satisfying with a man who has a fully mobile foreskin. It is said that the foreskin massages the woman's vagina as well as holding in the moisture, so that everything stays fully slippery. I would recommend the book "Sae As Nature Intended" by Kirsten O'Hare. Also many women report that an intact man moves more gently and sensually in the vagina, which is attributed to having a more sensitive glans that neither needs nor tolerates the vigorous thrusting that a less sensitive penis needs. The senistivity question is of course hotly debated. And of course, there is immense differecne among individuals, as well as so much of sexuality occurring between the ears.

So my recommendation would be that when he gets to the point where getting it caught behind the glans is a significant possibility, he should probably do some active stretching exercises to get past that risk. The two of you can read the book I mentioned to see the usefulness. Oh, and his glans will be exquisitely sensitive as he devleops mobility, so treat him gently. In fact when you stimulate him by hand, you should probably move just the foreskin rather than rubbing the glans at all, and only touch the glans itself delicately (he will love it, if done gently enough, but rubbing would be painful - trust me on that)


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