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Re: phimosis

Written by IA at 07 Jan 2004 18:22:44:

As an answer to: Re: phimosis written by halfclip at 07 Jan 2004 12:04:36:

Thanks halfclip,
I think I'm gonna wait. His urologist recommended I apply a hormone cream to help with the tightness. Actually, when I was applying the cream, that's when the paraphimosis occurred. We were retracting his penis and the foreskin was able to get over the glans, while flacid, causing some discomfort, but NOT pain. However, while the foreskin was retracted his head became hard and then we were unable to get the foreskin back over the head. It was horrible, the head became black and would not go back. I could not even touch it to try to get the foreskin back over.. he was in soooo much pain. I put him in cold water thinking that would help, it did not. That's when I rushed him to the emergency room. While they where trying to get the foreskin back over the head, my son experienced the worst pain he's ever experienced to date. While he was screaming and crying, I remember thinking that what he was going through was probably worse than a circ. I don't want the paraphimosis to ever occur again. Since, I've read your e-mails, I instructed him to retract his foreskin only to where it is comfortable. I told him to pull it forward and stretch it and to also retract while he urinates. I told him not be afraid to play with his foreskin. But, I have told him not to do anyting that is painful. Since, he's been retracing the foreskin while he urinates.
Should I still be applying the cream?
When you mention a partial circ. what is that? The urologist was going to remove the foreskin that covers the glans.. she was going to leave the rest of the foreskin intact.. Is that a partial circ.? Or is that a full circ.?


>>Dear Halfclip,
>>I like what you have to say. I've read so much that I am so confused. It's my
>>understanding that between the age of 3 to 5 most boys should have a retractable
>>foreskin. In your first e-mail you suggested that with proper education perhaps
>>we should wait til my boy is about 10 or 11. If you were my son, is that what
>>you would prefer?
>At that age, a circumcision would not be "sexual" nor "desired" by the young boy, unless lack of circ would cause great deal of pain.
>By age 10, when he starts to see peers nakes in showers/locker rooms, then he would be in a better position to decide. I think it depends a lot on his environment (will he be the only uncut at school, or will he have plenty of uncut peers).
>The danger is that your son, based on the paraphimosis event, may now be scared to manipulate his penis properly.
>As long as your son understand he must not FORECEFULLY pull the skin back, but can retract it as far as it can easily retract, he should be fine for the next 5 years, and by then, you and he can have a "long chat" to see if his penis works or not.
>For your son, he will proabbly prefer you leave it alone for now since he sees no use for his foreskin to retract and wouldn't want any operation anywhere on his body.
> When he starts to masturbate, he will then understand the need to retract and at that point, may desire at least a partia circ if his foreskin hasn't dilated by then.


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