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Re: phimosis

Written by IA at 07 Jan 2004 20:59:59:

As an answer to: Re: phimosis written by Ralesk at 07 Jan 2004 20:41:09:

Hi Ralsek,
Thank you for responding.. Ever since this occurred at the beginning of December.. It's been on my mind non-stop. I feel better just being able to talk about this openly and annonymously. I don't care to discuss this matter with anyone really cuz I feel like it's my son's privacy and I shouldn't be discussing it with others. His circ. was rescheduled for 1/19/04. I'm going to cancel it and try letting the opening loosen up with the techniques you've all suggested.
It's so scary, because I never wanted the paraphimosis to occur.. in fact, I had never even heard of such a thing until it occurred.. The GP, urologist noone ever said while applying the cream don't retract too much cuz this could occur.. They don't educate us. I guess it's not their responsibility, but you'd think they would mention the risks. They didn't do any of that. I feel so guilty and responsible for the pain my son endured and that's what I wanna prevent.
Thanks for all your support. I don't know if you know how much it means to me. It means a lot.


>>I suppose his foreskin is pretty long.
>Nothing wrong with that.
>>When he retracts the foreskin as far as is comfortable for him, the glans is still hidden behind the foreskin. Thank you for suggesting that I have him retract his foreskin when he urinates. I haven't instructed him to do that so hopefully that will help.
>It is likely to encourage the foreskin to loosen up more. The forward pulling method I usually describe to people with problems is quite safe (no chance of paraphimosis), so it can be a good thing until he can safely pull it back. NB, the important part there is to pull it in an 'opening way' as if you opened a pillowcase for trick or treating, or something.
>> This is such a hard choice. I'm a single mom and I feel like if I wait and the condition doesn't get better, I'm going to feel really bad.
>It has loosened up a bit since you've started meddling, so why worry about it being ineffective?
>> But, then I feel like if I have the surgery done maybe it would have been unnecessary.
>I believe it is so.
>> The urologist said that they can't do a partial removal of the foreskin.. She said they would have to remove the foreskin so the glans will always be exposed.
>Now you understand, there your son would have to endure 1) the wounds healing 2) the apparently quite sensitive head rubbing to his clothes.
>If you care to experiment a little, do yourself a favour and touch your clitoris with either your finger or, even better, your undies. I would guess it's not a good feeling, but it will give you an idea what circumcised children have to endure until they get used to it (good handful months). Let's not get into the part about nappies (diapers) vs. wounds.
>> I asked my son if he wanted to have the surgery, or if he wanted to wait to see if the hole got bigger on it's own. He decided that he wants to wait. I just hope I'm doing the right thing.
>I'm quite sure you are.


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