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need to do something

Written by JR at 02 Feb 2004 03:44:25:

I am almost 24 and have had a phimosis for as long as I can remember. My foreskin seems very long and 'baggy' and I cannot pull it back to reveal any of the glans whether soft or erect. I have thought about circumcision but it seems a bit drastic, especially after looking at this site (though it would fix the problem quickly). I have been able to have sex with this condition, though I find it easier with a condom (since the skin won't move as much) and lots of lubricant (too much friction is uncomfortable). I have had a nagging feeling, however, that sex would be much better if I didn't have the problem, since I am always worried about being too vigorous and hurting myself (especially in certain positions). Oral sex is particularly difficult as I cannot relax and my (very understanding) g/f doesn't want to hurt me by stroking down (how else can you do it?). She ends up being too gentle and it isn't really pleasurable for either of us. I desperately don't want to have to think about it anymore and I am a bit worried about hygiene, since I can't wash under the foreskin. I am now going to start some of the stretching exercises although, to be honest, I find the thought of exposing the glans quite frightening. By that I mean that on the few occasions that I have tried to pull back the foreskin and seen just the tip, I don't want to go any further - it feels like it will be painful or too sensitive in the open air if I do. I don't know if I've left it too late and it will just be too difficult.


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