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Written by Ralesk at 06 Feb 2004 10:35:43: Re: Doomed not to enjoy oral sex?
As an answer to: Doomed not to enjoy oral sex? written by Antony at 06 Feb 2004 08:35:58:
>To some extend this is not easy to explain, so I only hope you will understand.
>The shape of my glans is different from what I consider a perfectly normal glans does look like. The line that separates the glans from the shaft, which is called sulcus in my case goes like a stretched ellipse (i.e. my glans is big in length).I can say, "Your mileage may vary" :)
> Now my foreskin does retract, however in order to completely retract behind the glans it has a rather long way to go, bringing uncomfortable feeling. (And sometimes during intercourse I find myself making a pause to manually pull my foreskin back over penis head). My frenulum has never ripped, but when foreskin is fully pulled down (which again is alot of retraction) it adds tension and points the glans downward a bit.
You could -- should -- give a try to the stretching exercises, for example the forward-pulling one. The frenulum is quite more tender than the rest of the foreskin, so of course you have to go lighter than when stretching the foreskin itself, but it should actually give some reactions (usually a slower process than the rest of the foreskin).
My question is, are you aware of the methods? (you should check out the other threads in this page and the previous one in the archives -- they are full with links and descriptions.)
> Exposed like this with retracted foreskin my glans is too sensitive. I can touch directly the top area, but the further down toward the sulcus I touch the more uncomfortable it feels.
That's normal. If you really want to lessen the sensitivity of your glans, expose it and rub it more often -- but I would suggest against that practice.
> Masturbation is never a problem since I never touch head directly but only through my foreskin.
That's also very normal.
> Oral sex however is. With foreskin retracted the further down the touch is the worse it becomes. I can still have oral sex, it is not unbearable, but I can't ejaculate that way. The pleasurable sensations mix with the painful ones and the most I can do is stay aroused long time.
This doesn't come up with normal intercourse, yes?
>I am not ready to give up being like this for a lifetime.
As you grow older the sensitivity /will/ lessen. You can speed that up with exposing the glans, rubbing it, etc. Obviously, it's not the best idea.
> I know consulting an urologist is necessary and I've talked to mine about my problem. After hearing part of this he recommended circumcision.
Horseshit. There is absolutely zero medical indication for a circumcision in your case.
> I don't believe it will help. I'm considering frenuloplasty instead, to get rid of some the troublesome tensions.
Maybe it will help. I would say, before surgical intervention -- it doesn't seem to be a necessity after reading your description -- try the stretching exercises and let's see if it does any good. If not, you can then still have your frenuloplasty.
> Excuse my English, which is not my native language, I hope my description made some sense.
Your English is better than most of the U.S., don't worry.
> If you by any chance are someone who could associate personally with this (having a close to this problem) than you will know how it feels and it will be nice to hear from you.
I don't have much sensitivity anymore in my glans, though I am only 21. I'm intact, just like you, and to the extent I have experienced oral sex, it was not pleasant. Maybe it's a problem in my SO's methods, maybe it's just not meant for me. I haven't seen anyone (besides myself) who managed to bring me to orgasm with their hands or their mouth -- so, I guess I can somewhat relate. I'm not sure if your problem is a sensitivity one or a person one. Perhaps the latter, but I don't mean to sound offensive.