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Written by Ivan at 28 Feb 2004 02:57:04: Re: how should i ask about circumcision???
As an answer to: how should i ask about circumcision??? written by Scotty at 28 Feb 2004 00:22:37:
>arlight im 17 1/2 and i have been very anxious to be circumcised! I have wanted one for as long as i can remember no matter how unneccesary it is said to be. my question is how should i ask the parents?when i was younger they told me i wasnt beacuse it wasnt called for.And i have had many girls say how disgusting it looks.(which i agree). should i wait until im older? i have no clue as to waht to say to them or how theyd react. i dont even know what to say to the dr. ne suggestions wud be very much apprectiated. thanx
Well, you say you have had this urge for the longest time to cut off part of you body. You know it doesn't really matter what part it is, an urge to cut away a healthy functional body part is a sign of mental illness. Perhaps not terribly severe, but it is critical that you address this before you start hacking away. If, as it seems the problem is between the ears, then once you have this done you will just focus on someother body part to 'modify' or maybe more modifications on the same one - just like Mishael Jackson having too many nose jobs.
Don't try and kid yourself that you want this because girls find it disgusting. Very few would have even noticed it and even fewer would have said anything if you hadn't waved it around saying "Isn't this disgusting?" When people are handed such questions they tend to go along - few people have the strength of character to say "No, you idiot, it's just fine." We guys do the same thing when girls ask if their body parts are good, or more pointedly, if they make a big deal out of criticising them.
Please see a psychiatrist. You have cited no reason whatsoever for having this done (and don't try to come back with a bunch - the vast majority of those are post hoc excuses to justify this mutilation.) And try to educate yourself as to the value of a working foreskin - it really does have a lot of useful roles to play in your health and happiness. The desire to self-mutilate (even by delegation) is a sign of a mental problem. Don't wait.