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Several problems... desparetely need advice :-(

Written by nick at 18 Apr 2004 02:56:47:

Hi all,

Embarassingly, I didn't become aware of my problems until recently (I'm in my early twenties), of which there appear to be several.

About a month ago, I could barely retract my foreskin at all - in fact, I'd barely tried. After finally finding some informed and useful sites like this one, I decided to start stretching the foreskin more through masturbation. Now i can sort of retract the foreskin when flaccid, although still not when erect.

But I almost wished I'd never bothered. 20+ years of not retracting obviously doesn't seem to have done me any good. Here's my observations and questions:

- Now that the foreskin opening is stretched somewhat, it appears to be a short frenulum that's limiting the retraction of the foreskin. I'm going to start the stretching exercises documented on the web, but is there any way to guage approximately how much I might manage to lengthen my frenulum by?

- When retracting the foreskin to the extent I can (just behind the glans when flaccid, and on top only, due to short frenulum), it's always damp and sticking to the glans, like it's soggy. I know that moisture is naturally created between foreskin and glans, but should it be this damp?

- A section on the ridge of my glans doesn't appear to have separated from the foreskin. It's whiter where it joins, and although I daren't pull too hard on it, it's most definitely stuck. Is this likely to separate if/when I manage to masturbate with the foreskin retracted to that point, or is it something I need to seek help with? *gulp*

- the ridge of my glans is quite pronounced, but since managing to retract while flaccid, I've discovered it's slightly discoloured. Not red or inflamed, but kinda like gray, and it's only on the ridge. The rest of the glans is fine. I'm at a loss as to why it's like this. Any ideas?

Thanks to anyone who can help or advise me. A total lack of sex education at school and parental guidance has left me in this state where I want to make it better, but am sometimes too scared to face the possible realities of the situation. I've thought about seeing my doctor but I'd just be too terrified and embarassed to do so. I'm also a virgin, unsurprisingly enough. The thought of not being able to put things right myself is causing me real anxiety; and now sleepless nights spent sweating and panicking are causing me to perform poorly at work, too. Please help!!!


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