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Re: Please help! Pinhole phimosis

Written by Ralesk at 15 Jun 2004 12:38:23:

As an answer to: Please help! Pinhole phimosis written by Desperate girl at 15 Jun 2004 07:31:53:

>Dear all,
>I started to date a guy half a year ago and found he has pinhole phimosis according to information I found on this website (thank you for the information!). He does not know it and thinks himself normal.
>We are both serious about the relationship, and are talking about marriage. Because of education and religion reasons, we are not allowed to have pre-marriage sex. But since I know his condition is abnormal, I am not sure if we even can have sex. As descried in the forum "Reports suggest either little sexual activity or a one sided appetite." What does one-sided appetite mean?

I have no idea what that means. I, for one, haven’t seen that remark here in the forums for the last couple, uh, years.

>Is it possible to have good sex with a guy having pinhole phimosis condition.

Yes.

>Will condom help?

A condom will help in contraception :P But yes, some report that it makes it easier for people with phimosis, in that their foreskins aren’t being pushed to retract during the intercourse.

Lubrication can also help.

>The opening of his foreskin is really small even during erection (less than 5 mm), and he complains pain on his penis head (glans) when exposed through the pinhole.

That’s normal that he’s having discomfort when touching the glans — once he becomes able to retract his foreskin, his glans is going to get used to the exposure, and this pain will go away. A well-lubricated touch is not likely to hurt even in this condition, however.

>And it is also painful when the foreskin surrounding the hole retracts only a little bit. However, I think operation is probably not an option because of the sensitivity of his glans.

I too wonder how people can bear with that.

>In addition, although he is only 34, he occasionally has erectile dysfunction already -- takes him a long time to get erected. I think an operation will make things worse.
>I sincerely hope to hear from you about what to do to help him.

Since you want to avoid an operation, what I can suggest is what we call stretching. It’s a simple exercise, one that can be turned into a daily routine. Here goes.

It doesn’t matter whether he’s flaccid or not, what he has to do is to grasp the tip of the foreskin and pull forward. The foreskin is going to form a “tube” of sorts. Now, to make sure the skin knows in which direction to grow, he also has to pull in a way as if to open the orifice. A good picture is available here. (It’s a photo of a penis, I sincerely hope you two won’t feel offended by that.) He should make sure he feels tension, but no pain. Lubrication will help if there is painful or uncomfortable friction between the glans and the foreskin — what comes to my mind is using a syringe (without a needle of course!) to squirt a little lube inside, if needed. As a last line, every attempt at this should be held for a minute or so, repeated a couple times per session; have one or few sessions a day. In as small as a week he should experience results, although the whole process can take up some months. Some parts of this are of course up for personal fine-tuning — everyone differs.

>Thank you!
>A desperate girl

I hope I have helped.


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