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Written by Mdb at 20 Jun 2004 18:45:03: Re: 30 years too late
As an answer to: Re: 30 years too late written by Danalee at 20 Jun 2004 18:18:26:
I'm 25 and I was certainly clueless to the whole condition. I went to a doctor when i was 19 regarding it as it was causing me occasional problems with my gf and he didn't know what it was and just said it would go away. Which of course isn't true, i went to a different doctor (after reading this website) when i was 23 and again i was told it was nothing to worry about and Phimosis wasn't a medical term. It's too embarrasing to try and go into an arguement with a doctor as to why it isn't just nothing. I firmly believe i would never have had any help regarding phimosis if my doctor hadn't referred me to a specialist because he thought i had a cancerous mole. That got cut away at the same time as everything else, it was however just a freckle :). So it's taken 6 years to get to where i am now. Education is the key, if i had known earlier i might not have had to get cut but tried these other methods. But there is no education on this at all
>:) Sex education, indeed! I hope that this ignorance would not repeat itself today; but since it was even difficult for me to find a name to put to this condition, let alone find this website, I fear the outlook remains poor. It doesn't just impact the man, it impacts their spouse/partner. It took me years to become orgasmic myself and to this day I would probably not knowingly go into a relationship with a non-circumcized man because of the trauma from those early years.
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>>Back then, and even today, most of the “medical establishment” are all about cut, cut, cut — and have no idea about nonsurgical alternatives. The other, quite as, if not more significant issue than that of the lack of intervention as you put it, is the lack of proper sexual education in his upbringing. Had he been taught better, had he, perhaps, not been taught wrong — he may have not had the condition you are referring to, phimosis.