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Written by concerned mother at 28 Jun 2004 20:00:06: Re: my son
As an answer to: Re: my son written by Will - UK at 25 Jun 2004 17:50:18:
>Not to worry mum, what you are doing will put everything right. The opening on his foreskin will continue to stretch, just don't go overboard in a panic with the stretching at the moment so any injuries to his foreskin can heal.
>If, after the healing, he's still tight "down there," then get your GP to prescribe Betamethazone Cream which will help him stretch. Best to tell him that leaving himself retracted isn't a good idea until he loosens up a bit.
>As for the op being no big deal as David_R says, possibly he may not be aware that being cut in the UK will make him odd man out and make him look either Muslim or Jewish, none of which a 10 year old boy wants. Consider the boy who may well enjoy his foreskin and who has already been terrorized when his willy bit him in the bath and now terrorized again with this talk of cutting off part of his willy. At 10, he has no need to expose his knob anyway.
>The best bet is that whilst mum's current treatments continue, to teach the lad how to apply pressure to his glans to squeeze the blood out and then have mum gently pull his foreskin forward.
Firstly I must say that I don't know what I would have done without you guys on this site. It is comforting to know that my baby is not a freak.
If the tightness continues into teens etc, I am worried that he may masterbate (as his foreskin goes back quite easily) and then his foreskin will get stuck. This could be accutely embarrassing for him. he doesn't mind mum pulling at it right now but by then...!
The more I read on this site the more I do wonder if he has phimosis or just badly scarred tissue, as the tight area is not right at the tip of his foreskin it is about 2-3 mm back from there. It goes like an elastic band behind the glans when he pulls it back. I have to say that after one week on hydrocortisone it goes back a bit easier now but not forward again.If he does need circumcision then I wonder if I should let him decide when he is a "man" so that he does not feel that his parents have "punished" him in some way for getting his skin stuck in the bath one day.
After one week he is trying to re-assure himself that it is getting looser and that the "wonder" cream is working and he won't need any surgery.