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Written by Ivan at 29 Dec 2004 07:28:42: Re: Virginity
As an answer to: Virginity written by Nick at 29 Dec 2004 06:27:13:
>Hi, I am a 20 year old male who has just gotten over my phimosis problem. I was able to retract my foreskin for the first time about a year ago and it has increased the size of my erection as well as flaccid state so I have no more embarassing hangups about getting naked. The fact is I have been to scared to have sex before because of this problem but now I am ever so ready. At work, I am great at conversing with girls and making them laugh and just about everything. I honestly do not see anything holding me back but I just can't initiate any sort of sexual advance without them thinking I'm kind of a weird dude. I don't know why. I moved out of my parent's house and I'm all set to try dating and stuff. Someone please tell me what I should do or am I just cursed?
My recommendation would be to not try to push the sex angle. It doesn't work like that, except with a VERY few girls. Develop a friendship, then a solid relationship. Once you have done that, initiating a sexual part to your relationship will not seem weird to either you or her. Also, particularly f you are in the USA, lay off sexual advances in the workplace - the sexual harrassment laws are so tight and so perversely interpreted that an employer that wants to protect itself has to fire any male that shows any sort of sexual interest in the working place.