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Re: Advice for me and my husband

Written by James at 24 Apr 2005 07:20:47:

As an answer to: Advice for me and my husband written by Mrs. K at 24 Apr 2005 05:09:58:

Frankly, I think you should accept your husband for what he has unless there is something else that is 'unusual' about his foreskin that other men do not bother you with.

I'm not really aware of your position, because you're a woman and every person thinks differently, but I am sure he has one of his own and I truly don't think it could hurt to ask him about it. It should be more than just about your preference -- but also what he prefers. Have you tried asking him how much he likes his foreskin? I've had a foreskin. Actually, I had a foreskin until March 16. My foreskin didn't retract even after steroid treatment. But if it had, I wouldn't have had to have had my problem corrected surgically. My motto on this subject has always been, if it isn't broken -- why fix it? So that's why I usually only offer advice to people who do need to fix it.

Think about it this way, the only benefit of circumcision is having that 'excess' skin out of the way. But if you push the skin behind the glans, it has the same appearance as a circumcised penis anyway, but is (always) lubricated. For him, the only difference he would know between being uncut and cut is that the head is always covered, otherwise the sexual function would remain the same and thus I'm not sure why it would be any different for you. The shaft skin, in most cases, still expands over the corona and ridge.

I don't see why it should benefit your libido by lopping off his foreskin for no reason. But by all means, if you want to find a way of discussing this with him, why not hint that you're accustomed to circumcised males and that you've often preferred it? I don't see how this could offend him overly much, and maybe he'll be open to discussing it with you.

Good luck with that. I've had no regrets with my circumcision. In fact it's the best thing that ever happened to me. But I could see you having a very hard time trying to persuade an uncircumcised male to change. I know I wouldn't have. Unless, that is, if he's madly in love with you. ;-) ha ha!

>Hello all! I have been continueously searching the net for quite some time to find research on Adult circumcision and found your comments to be very helpful. What I would like to know is how you guys feel about women suggesting circumcison? I would prefer to have my husband circumcised, we have been married for a little more than two years now and his forskin really affects my Libido. I used to really enjoy oral sex (with previous partner before) and now I can't stand the idea. Due to religous reasons we where not sexually active before marriage, so I really had no clue I would feel this way. I love my husband with all my heart, and if it is something I have to accept I will but I would like advice as to how to approach the subject with him. Thanks!


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