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Re: Advice for me and my husband

Written by James at 24 Apr 2005 20:05:24:

As an answer to: Re: Advice for me and my husband written by GeoffB at 24 Apr 2005 15:20:22:

I wouldn't go that far. I mean, she's a woman. Some women think differently. Some think circumcision is a lot less than it is based on the accumulations of their previous partners. I don't really thinking asking a question warrants such personal attacks like to say she needs a psychiatrist.

My motto has always been, if it isn't broken -- don't fix it. She can always openly discuss the topic with her husband. But why bother dwelling on the man when he is the way he was born? Shouldn't that be a woman's dream come true?

I also wouldn't compare circumcision to amputation or to female circumcision. Female circumcision has not (truly) had the religious exposure or otherwise of male circumcision. And further, the female anatomy is way different to that of the male, and the uncovered clitoris is far more sensative than the glans.

I haven't lost any sense of sensation or pleasure with my circumcision. My frenulim is still in tact as well. To me, the only difference is not having a fold of skin 'squeezing' against the glans (ala phimosis) as it did, it is a major new charm in my life. I can say honestly that I wouldn't have the procedure done if it wasn't necessary. And I wouldn't otherwise recommend it to any other man, because the procedure is way overrated. That isn't to say that this woman shouldn't be entitled to think of her partner as she wishes. But just remember that there are hundreds of millions of other couples that are the same way and madly in love! Don't dwell on it!


>You are suggesting that he have 15 square inches of erogenous tissue removed from his genitals, over half the total penile skin area, just because you are conditioned to think of a penis as circumcised. If he suggested that you have a boob job or other sexual surgery just because it turned him on more you would be outraged. Foreskin rejection is a men's liberation issue. The USA is the only western country still circumcising most of it's baby boys. Countries like Australia and Canada, that used to do so, now have rates of less than 10%.
>In case you assume I have a foreskin, I was circumcised as a baby and will never forgive the medical profession and my parents for doing that to me. I got some inkling of what I had lost when I had a masturbation session with another boy when I was about 13 or 14. I went through a lot of anguish and counselling to lessen the anger I feel but will never feel whole.
>Some men like the result of adult circumcision, especially if they have phimosis that does not respond to stretching but others really miss their foreskin's gliding action during masturbation and sex. If he hates the result there is no going back and he may come to hate you for suggesting it. I would suggest you seek psychological counselling rather than suggest your husband get himself mutilated for no good reason.
>Geoff
>>Hello all! I have been continueously searching the net for quite some time to find research on Adult circumcision and found your comments to be very helpful. What I would like to know is how you guys feel about women suggesting circumcison? I would prefer to have my husband circumcised, we have been married for a little more than two years now and his forskin really affects my Libido. I used to really enjoy oral sex (with previous partner before) and now I can't stand the idea. Due to religous reasons we where not sexually active before marriage, so I really had no clue I would feel this way. I love my husband with all my heart, and if it is something I have to accept I will but I would like advice as to how to approach the subject with him. Thanks!


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