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Written by James at 23 May 2005 22:59:27: Re: Girlfriend sorted the phimosis problem, but I can't reach orgasm
As an answer to: Re: Girlfriend sorted the phimosis problem, but I can't reach orgasm written by Ivan at 23 May 2005 18:43:08:
I disagree that it is 'made' for the vagina. Neither the theory of evolution or religion can prove this claim.
And for this guy I'm not concerned at all. His glans has been covered significantly, I'm sure. What he really needs to do is what he and his girlfriend are doing by continuing to stretch the foreskin. It is obviously (not) that tight if he is able to bring it to retraction. Keep this habit up for a while, it will pay off in the end. Additionally, get accustomed to feeling the glans, it will pay off as you will become more accustomed to touch and the discomfort will fade.
I'm not even sure that a doctor would be of aide for you. You seem close enough as it is. If you want to get it checked out to see if you could get any steroid cream to help you stretch (betamethasone) that may be of use to you.
So in a nutshell -- keep stretching, keep touching, keep getting used to being out of the shell. If you don't do this, I could imagine it tightening to a point beyond retraction in the visible future.
If you have any questions, ask.
Good luck!
>>I've had phimosis for as long as I can remember and I'm now 21. I've only recently entered a relationship where I've felt I need to sort the problem out and lose my virginity once and for all, as in the past I've always had the feeling that I'm different from other guys and I've always made excuses.
>>The other night I let my girlfriend masturbate me for the first time, thankfully because of the (quite forceful) technique she was using she actually managed to eventually pull my foreskin back over my glans for the very first time. From her point of view I guess it just looked like it needed a bit of work, but from mine it was a great relief that it actually worked.
>>Since then we haven't actually had sex yet as she's on her period, but every time she masturbates me I seem to get a really intense pleasure out of it as she rubs the glans directly. It's getting to the point where I can't really make my mind up whether it's good or not as the sensation is something I'm not really used to.
>>It's causing her to think she's not turning me on enough though. Although I can keep it up for over an hour whilst she plays with me I've yet to actually climax and ejaculate whilst she masturbates me. It's beginning to worry me a little as I don't want her to get the wrong idea, and also I'm beginning to think there's something wrong with me. Makes a change from ejaculating too early I suppose, but it's still bugging me and I really don't know what to do about it.
>>Do you think I just need time to get used to the new sensations or can anyone suggest any other solutions?
>Well, to me that direct rubbing of the glans sounds awful. I would not allow someone to do that to me except with the lightest of touches, more of a tickle really. The glans is made for the very slick and wet environment of the vagina. Far more stimulating for it is the pressure of the vagina (or hand) squeezing it. You should not have any trouble when it come to actual intercourse but take your time.
>As for her masturbating you, why don't you guide her into doing what works for you. If you have not found out what that is yet, then explore. Try masturbating if you haven't. Most intact men prefer to move the foreskin back and forth over the glans, making sure that the frenulum gets a large portion of the movement. It is usually not the more forceful 'jackhammer' stroke of many of those circumcised as infants, but a much gentler sensuous touch. On the other hand if you would rather just guide her with words of advice, ask her to picture the glans and foreskin as a large clitoris with its clitoral hood, and gice it the sort of stroking she would want for her clitoris. The structures are homologous, meaning that they are in fact the same structures but developed somewhat differently due to hormones. If you tried to directly rub her clitoris with the vigor you describe her using on your glans, she would smack you silly. You should have the same TLC for your delicate parts.