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Written by Forever Lovin' Jah at 31 May 2005 03:56:49: Re: Girlfriend sorted the phimosis problem, but I can't reach orgasm
As an answer to: Girlfriend sorted the phimosis problem, but I can't reach orgasm written by Anon at 23 May 2005 15:56:21:
I had precisely the same problem as you after I intially did away with my phimosis through stretching. I was unable to retract my foreskin while erect on my own because of trepidation and a lack of proper lubrication, but then while fooling around with my girlfriend it just happened. It was so gradual I didn't even notice. And yes, I know that sensation, and it is hard to accurately describe. Here's my opinion, for what it's worth.
I've heard about a lot of guys that say they are feeling self-conscious about not being able to achieve orgasm from manual stimulation, either for this reason or for others. I wouldn't be too alarmed man. Firstly, you're right, it is a lot better than going the distance too early. Hell, tell her you're a sexual stallion. Secondly, the fact is, most women are not all that great at handjobs. They really don't have the practice we do. So tell her what you like, experiment, but be aware that you just may be one of those guys for whom mutual masturbation is simply not enough.
But as to the intense sensitivity, this is just a by product of your glans being exposed for the first time. I suggest exposing it several times a day (this can be done along with your general stretching exercises) and giving it different sensations. Warm water in the shower, for instance. Don't stick it in an ice cube tray but you know what I mean.
Oh, and one other thing, you may find that oral sex is better, as it's gentler and warmer.
Anyway, don't fret too much, and just remember, for all the anguish, you are still coming out of this with a "hour long handjob" as you said, which seems like a good way to spend an hour.