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Re: Psychosexual Development

Written by Steve at 23 Jan 2002 23:47:59:

As an answer to: Re: Psychosexual Development written by AJ at 23 Jan 2002 13:02:43:

>Unfortunately this happens to quite a lot of guys that have similar problems with the penis/foreskin. I believe there's some material on the site that hosts this forum (link at top of forum page).

>I was the same as you prior to my partial circ and frenulum removal. If, like me, you have the problem solved surgically you might also find that afterwards, like me, a huge weight has been lifted. It's really extra-ordinarily uplifting the sense of liberation you get from having a correctly function penis. I suppose it's kind of like people who have nose-jobs or whatever, afterwards they feel much more confident and the same applies to your problem (although medical and not cosmetic).

Thanks, it is such a relief to hear this! I've been gradually cutting down my expectations, after at first believing that it would solve a whole raft of things. But what you describe (ie. that it *will* solve those things) is what I would like to hope for. I'll bet there are knock-on effects in the blood chemistry, the immune system, and the endorphin levels, to name a few: I think nature tends to have these mechanisms for the survival of the fit.

>I would also point out that if you do attempt stretching excersize for the frenulum, you should be VERY careful. It might also be worth finding accounts online from people that have had experience in with these excersizes and see how they got on - if they did okay, injured themselves, or did nothing etc.

I'm a very careful type anyway, though I appreciate the warning.

But do other things come together of their own accord, or do I have to work very hard on them to catch up? eg. dating techniques (I realise most pubescent boys have struggled endlessly with this, and would now be very proficient, but I was never interested), emotional attachments, knowledge of sex, knowing how to deal with intense feelings, etc.

If things take off as you imply, I might still be heading for trouble with relationships if I don't have the understanding of these things that would be expected of someone my age.


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