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Re: Psychosexual Development

Written by Jim at 25 Jan 2002 15:30:30:

As an answer to: Re: Psychosexual Development written by Steve at 25 Jan 2002 03:55:56:

>My appearance and demeanor are vaguely similar to Abe Lincoln, but much better looking in a dim light, without the whiskers, and on a bad day, if that helps (maybe it doesn't) :)
>But I'm more interested in the sexual matters; I only mentioned that to explain my need to get things right 1st time in relationships. It might help you to appreciate why I'm so keen to fully understand everything there is to know.
>>BTW, I'm curious where in the world you are.
>erm, Cardiff, Wales, UK ;)

Getting things right the first time isn't always possible. We learn by doing, and through doing, learn to improve. Relationships are developed no differently from any of the other tasks or events we encounter throughout life. Simply start from where you are and build as you learn.

Relationships built solely around sex will ultimately collapse no matter how much you try to keep them together. Perhaps you are trying to approach this dating matter with the wrong expectations. Is that why you are afraid to go further with the girls you now know? Unfortunately society has placed upon us a thinking that sex is all there is, but that is simply not the case. When the rest of the elements of a good relationship come together, sex will naturally come along with them. However, that does not necessarily mean the sex should necessarily be a part of all dating relationships. I hope you know what that means. Go out with them to have fun, just make that your goal. Enjoy talking and doing things together, sharing time together.


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