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Written by Concerned at 13 Feb 2002 04:49:52: Re: Initiation/Checking
As an answer to: Initiation/Checking written by Kevin7 at 12 Feb 2002 22:53:37:
Sometimes revisiting the way we used to feel when we first discovered good feelings, is really great. What you NEED to do is understand the line. It's not right to touch a child for your own sexual pleasure. Even if they want you to. Your frequent openess is healthy, but dangerously close to teaching your children that adult/child "touching" is ok. It's not! Hopefully you weren't thinking anything sexual about your boys when you "had" to JO. You need to teach your children that though openess is good, but there's a proper line to be drawn. Perhaps thier pleasure from it stems from it happening a little to frequently. Being only 9 it's not totally unusual for the foreskin to not come back all the way yet. Every boy is different and some men live their lives happily never having it come back all the way. This isn't a medical necessity. You should probably keep your hands off. hmm? 9 years old is plenty old enough to widdle wash yourself. Practice good parenting and let the boys do their own exploring on their own or together and without you. Tell them that it would be innapropriate for you to touch them without a good reason. I'm not saying you're a sick ____ for nostalgia to get to you. But touching is the line. STAY BEHIND IT!!
>I have “restored” my foreskin and wear an O-ring all day and while asleep. I was cut as a kid because of tightness. I reckon most people would not know I’d been cut but my 9-year-old sons know – they are uncircumcised. We shower together and I’ve explained about foreskin retraction and “stretching”. Tim, who is a few months older than his half-brother can get his cockhead out easily, but Tom is still tight and we are “working on it”.
>The boys and I are quite open and talk about hoods, hard-ons and “good feelings” without embarassment. The boys are relaxed about getting boners and compare how long they can stretch their “spouts”.
>Tom has been checked regularly over the past 12 months & I have recorded exactly how much of his acorn can be exposed. There is definitely a gradual improvement, so I am sure it will all be okay soon.
>Then, about two months ago, Tim complained that I was always helping with Tom’s penis and never touched his any more. When I explained that his was OK & well on the way to manhood, he said he felt, “left out” and please couldn’t I keep on washing & checking him anyway – my wife once described what I was doing as giving them a widdle-wash & the word has become family jargon for checking their hoods while washing them.
>I have realised gradually over the past few weeks that both boys really enjoy being touched and are trying to get me to keep touching them for as long as possible. They fool around grabbing each other until they get hard & then suggest it’s time to be “washed”.
>I have been half shocked and half pleased to realise that they must all along have been getting some sort of (sexual?) pleasure from being checked.
>What is alarming me is that I, myself, am now also starting to sometimes get a VERY strong erections, provoked partly by the intimacy of knowing they want me to touch THEIR erections. Most times I have HAD to jack off just to get it down and my wife has commented a few times now that she finds me “longer & stronger” in our love-making.
>I know that I am amazingly hard & horny more often and for longer, and this is clearly related to those occasions when I have been “checking” the boys and gotten hard myself, but I don’t think I can tell her this.
>The boost to our love-life has been fantastic. Half of me says I am on rocky ground. The other half says, “Stop being so uptight and just let what happens happen.
>Does anyone have any advice? I don’t want to hurt the kids.