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Written by tmtanec at 02 Mar 2002 15:40:38: Re: Foreskin Retraction Problems
As an answer to: Foreskin Retraction Problems - URGENT!! PLEASE HELP!! written by Peter at 28 Feb 2002 01:44:48:
Hi Peter
Maybe you should start off by trying to retract when you’re flaccid, after a shower, or maybe best of all in the bath after a good long soak. Gently try to pull your foreskin back as far as it will go. If you find that you get hard while doing this, jerk off, ejaculate, top up the bath with some more warm water, and start all over again.
If you have pain at any point: stop. Let your foreskin slip forward again, then try to work out what was causing this pain. If it’s a ragged fingernail, bite off the raggedy bit that is causing the problem, and start again. If it definitely isn’t a finger nail, think about what else may be causing the pain, then try again very gently, exploring the point where the pain begins.
Your glans may only be very sensitive, as it sounds as if it hasn’t been much exposed before, and it may need time to get used to the unaccustomed pressure as the edge of your foreskin rolls back over it. Don’t worry about this for now. Try something else instead.
EXERCISE 1: Get an erection, then pull your foreskin gently back as far as it will go. If you have pain at any point, stop. There will come a point, however, where you know that your foreskin has been pulled back as far as it wants to go. OK. Hold it here for a minute or so, keeping as much retraction pressure on it as is bearable. Then let it slip forward again and repeat the exercise. Repeat this about ten times - more if you can - then jack off if you need to. Don’t worry about the vein.
Penises, like hands and forearms, and other male extremities, can be remarkably veiny things. In fact, guys are often quite vain about their veins. They like to have these big prominent blood vessels coursing down their arms, and spreading like roots on the hairy backs of their hands, and if you go to a gym you will often see guys admiring not just muscles, but veins, and the honest-to-goodness, its-all-on-the-surface, almost machine-like quality of fit male bodies. Guys are daft. But then, I’m a guy. I’m daft. This is why I’ve spent such an inordinate amount of time (2000 words and counting) replying to your questions. Also, your situation is familiar.
Keep on with Exercise 1 day after day for about fifteen minutes each day. This could be difficult if you don’t have much privacy where you live, but you’ll hopefully be able to find some place where you won’t be disturbed and where you can also see what you’re doing. Also, continue trying to pull your foreskin back when your penis is soft: every time you piss; every time you feel the urge to have a look at your cock. There should soon come a point where you are able to get it back when it is soft so as to uncover your glans completely.
When you do, you may notice a whitish almost pus like material that smells quite strongly of penis – though the smell may be unfamiliar. This stuff – smegma, from the Greek for ‘detergent’, a far more astute name than may at first seem – is nothing to worry about, though it won’t do any harm to wash it off. Don’t use soap, shampoo, bubble bath, or any other artificial detergent, however, as these things are unnecessary, and, really, not recommended either. For now, don’t put anything on your glans or on the inner surface of your foreskin that you wouldn’t put in your mouth. The converse, however, doesn’t hold. Putting toothpaste on your penis is not a good idea. Warm water is all that is needed.
Once you can get your foreskin back so as to uncover your glans completely when your penis is soft, then you can really begin. First, take some time to get your glans used to being out in the open. Touch it gently. How does this feel? Pull your foreskin all the way back every time you piss. Once your glans has become used to the gentle contact of your fingers, you can begin stretching the cuff of your foreskin.
EXERCISE 2: When your penis is soft, try to get two fingers inside the cuff of your foreskin. This will be tricky at first, and the thing to do is to pull you foreskin back so that it rests behind your glans, then press the tips of the first finger of each hand gently into your glans and roll your foreskin forward over your glans so that it also rolls forward over the tips of your fingers. You may have to adjust your fingers, or start again, placing your fingers further down towards the ridge at the base of your glans. When you can get your foreskin to cover your fingers by about a centimetre or so, pull your fingers gently apart, trying to angle them so that the tips of your fingers pull slightly further apart than your two first knuckles. This angling should keep your foreskin from sliding off your fingers. You’ve trapped it.
Good. Keep it under tension for a minute or so, then release, and try the exercise again. Keep on doing this for about ten minutes each day.
All the while, of course, you’ve been continuing with Exercise 1: pulling your foreskin back as far as you can when your penis is erect. This is now taking you half an hour each day. You are spending thirty minutes each day on your penis, and may have to give up East Enders as a result. Is this excessive?
Well, you’re fifteen, so probably about six hours each day, five days a week, are nominally devoted to that other very important sexual organ, namely your brain. Personally, I don’t think I learned anything much at school at all. I certainly didn’t learn to spell, though this doesn’t seem to be true of you. Anyway, half an hour each day spent on your penis will be time well spent indeed. Keep at it.
Let’s review the situation. When your penis is soft, you can now retract your foreskin so as to uncover your glans completely. When it is hard, your foreskin may retract most of the way down the glans, but perhaps still doesn’t uncover it completely. It stops before the possibly quite prominent ridge at the base of your glans. This ridge is called the corona glandis, which is Latin for ‘crown of the acorn’, and seems a poetic and well-observed description. The opening in the glans (Latin for ‘acorn’) where urine and ejaculate come out is called the meatus urinarius, which is Latin for ‘urine passage’.
So, keep on with Exercise 1, pulling your foreskin progressively further and further back when your penis is hard. You will probably find that you are able to be a bit ‘rougher’ with it by now, though don’t do anything silly such as trying to give yourself a blow job with a vacuum cleaner. Flesh on flesh is the thing here. Machinery, especially anything with a sharp edge, such as a scalpel, say, is most definitely to be avoided. Keep on with Exercise 2, but see if you can now get three, four, perhaps even five fingers inside the cuff of your foreskin. If at any stage your penis feels tender, give it a day or two to recover, then continue. Pretty soon now your foreskin will pull back to uncover your glans completely even when your penis is fully erect. But will it go forwards again? Ah there’s the rub.
Exercises 1 and 2 together will hopefully have loosened your foreskin enough so that it will roll forwards again without any difficulty. If it won’t go forwards again, and your glans suddenly feels extremely sensitive and seems to have swollen up quite a bit larger, don’t worry. Squeeze it gently but firmly with one hand - to push the blood out of it - then roll your foreskin forwards. Give it a rest for today, but don’t give up. Try again tomorrow, and the next day, and the next, persisting meanwhile with Exercise 2. Tomorrow and tomorrow and tomorrow… Pretty soon, you should be able to roll your foreskin back to uncover your glans completely even when your penis is fully erect, and then roll it forwards again without much difficulty. Now you can really begin.
EXERCISE 3: Using a fist type grip, pull your foreskin back as far as it will go, uncovering your glans completely, and try to stretch the skin down the shaft of your penis. Give it really good stretch, then slide your fist back up again so your foreskin rolls over your glans to cover it completely or almost completely. Repeat. At the bottom of each stroke, stretch the skin as much as you can. The sensations here should become extremely enjoyable very soon – narcotic perhaps, though I’ve never tried narcotics and can’t imagine that the feelings they provide can be anything more than poor imitations of this primal pleasure. Soon you will become very addicted to these sensations. This, I’d say, is a very good addiction, though most other addictions are probably not. Try to keep this up for fifteen minutes or more. You may find the urge to ejaculate is almost overwhelming. Ejaculate.
There is, however, a muscle near the base of your penis that you can use to stop the flow of urine when you’re pissing. It you tense this muscle as hard as you can when you feel the urge to ejaculate beginning, then, after maybe a few not very successful initial attempts, you should find that you are able to delay ejaculation a little further. To delay ejaculation, take your hand off your cock, and tense this muscle as hard as you can. Your erection will probably become outstandingly firm, but you won’t ejaculate. Let the pre-ejaculatory tremors subside, and then continue, pulling your foreskin back and stretching it down the shaft. Don’t worry for now if it the skin doesn’t smooth out completely on the shaft of your penis, or if your glans bends somewhat out of true as you stretch the skin back as far as you can. Try to build up control so that you can go a good half hour with exercise 3 before you ejaculate. Also, it isn’t necessary to ejaculate every single time, though if you’ve had a stressful day, or think you may have trouble getting to sleep, ejaculating last thing at night is very relaxing.
Spunk stains? Kitchen towels are very good for catching ejaculate, and you can ball them up then dispose of them down the WC next morning. Unless you ejaculate amazing amounts, one towel would usually be enough. And if you don’t share a room, don’t masturbate under the covers. You want to see what you’re doing so as to make sure you continue stretching your foreskin down the shaft of your penis as far as it will go.
Since you can now roll your foreskin back so as to uncover your glans easily when your penis is erect, Exercise 1 is now redundant, and is replaced by Exercise 3. Exercise 2 can be relegated to perhaps one or two days per week, and eventually dropped altogether. And if your persist with Exercise 3 every day for four months or so – actually, you will probably want to persist with Exercise 3 on and off for most of the rest of your life – but anyway, if you persist diligently with Exercise 3 every day for around four months, you will probably find that your foreskin develops an amazingly silky action. It will roll back easily, stretching down the shaft of your penis some way, then roll forwards again almost without any effort. The sensations produced by all this will be really amazing. Excellent. You have trained your foreskin so that it has developed a lovely silky action. Now you can really begin.
You are more than physically ready for sex with another person. As you have probably been thinking sexual thoughts over the last several months while engaging in Exercise 3 - perhaps elaborating various fantasies too - you are probably more or less mentally ready as well.
Good luck. You have some control over your own pleasure, and probably realise that if you delay ejaculation a little, the final release will be all the more satisfying. Something that will bring you extraordinary pleasure, not to mention pride, and love, and amazingly powerful feelings of closeness, will be to cause in an other person something of the same silky, narcotic pleasure you have learned to cause in yourself, followed, if you work up to this patiently, by shuddering waves of release. If the other person is female, this may be something of a puzzle at first because her anatomy will seem very different from yours. However, by now you probably know how to watch out for signs of pleasure, and know how to touch very gently on intimate places, so you will be a gentle but persuasive explorer of this unaccustomed territory, and will know to take things slowly. As I said, good luck.
Meantime, have a look at http://www.cirp.org/library/treatment/phimosis/beauge.