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Written by tmtanec at 04 Mar 2002 00:01:09: Re: genital problems
As an answer to: genital problems written by paul at 02 Mar 2002 00:18:57:
Hi Mate,
I reposted this, so it would be top of the thread.
Cheers
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Original Post (edited):
Hi Paul
If the piece of skin from your foreskin that is connected to your penis is near the midline at the front (when you're holding it up and looking down on it), and if it seems to join on near the pee hole at the tip, then the piece of skin could be your frenulum. The frenulum is a web of skin that connects the foreskin to the midline groove at the front of the glans. It’s normal to have a frenulum.
If the piece of skin is in some other position, it could be an adhesion. Part of your foreskin may not have fully separated from your glans, or perhaps there was some tearing here a while ago, and your foreskin and glans have healed together.
Gentle but persistent attempts at retraction over several months may free this up. Try this in the bath. Maybe also, try pulling your foreskin back very gently when your penis is erect.
I don’t know if this is a good suggestion, but, well, see what you think: If you have some free time, try getting hold of some pornography that you find interesting and look at this as often as is convenient. Some people have suggested that this may increase testosterone levels, and though this may be hogwash, there could be something to it.
Many men who had uncomfortable foreskins have managed to loosen them up over time. It took me around a year or so. I’m the same age as you, incidentally. The painful sensitivity of the glans usually subsides once the foreskin can be retracted and is retracted regularly, but it can certainly be painful until it becomes used to being exposed.
The problem of not being able to get rid of urine fully: is it that even when you have finished pissing, there is still urine inside which seeps out later, or is it that urine seems to collect in your foreskin a little - and then seeps out later?
If this is possible, you could try pulling your foreskin back a little when you piss, so that urine will come out your pee hole without contacting your foreskin. You could also try milking your penis gently after you piss so as to squeeze any urine that is still in the tube up and out, then give it a good shake for a few minutes. Also, give it dab with some soft toilet paper if there is any about.
You could also try exercising the muscle at the base of your penis that can be used to stop your flow of urine. Try contracting this muscle regularly when you’re just sitting doing something else – surfing the web maybe. Then you can try giving this muscle a good squeeze after you have finished pissing, and before you do the milk and shake.
You may have tried all this stuff anyway, in which case I apologise for repeating things you already know.
A male or female doctor examining your genitals is going to be uncomfortable. But people who have chosen to specialise in this area will often have made that choice because they want to help people have well-functioning genitals. Many Doctors in the UK, especially those under 50, treat patients with a great deal of respect, which is of course only right and proper, and is exactly the way things should be. Sure they’re human, so maybe sometimes they get a sexual tingle from all this, but I think it’s fair to assume that they mostly want to help. They also know that exposing the genitals is humiliating for the patient, as they would find this humiliating themselves.
BTW, what was the newspaper advice column that tipped you off about phimosis?