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Tight foreskin

Written by Paul B. at 13 Mar 2002 09:29:39:

As an answer to: My tight fore skin written by Jake Booth at 12 Mar 2002 21:10:45:

Hello Jake, your contributions to the other forum are duly noted!

> what I have been doing is pulling my forskin foward for about 10 mins a day in the bath usually,

I'm wondering what you mean by "forward"? Presumably the standard exercise that three-year-olds practice?

This one in fact?

> and now I have no problems at all retracting the fore skin when it's flacid.

Well, that's an excellent start.

> The problem is ... putting me off sex and starting a relationship with anyone.

Honestly, I can't see why! Do you mean to tell us you don't masturbate? Presuming you do, what's the difference in having intercourse? I can see one slight potential problem, which we may discuss, but are you under some sort of misapprehension that it is necessary to pull the foreskin back to have intercourse? I can assure you that there must be millions of men on this planet who function quite well, albeit perhaps not optimally, with a completely unretractable foreskin, just as you have done so far when you masturbate.

Further, you make it sound as if having intercourse (I presume this is what you mean by "sex") is central to a relationship. Do you really think it is? If you do, then we diverge widely at this point, because I see it as being, though essential to marriage, only one of the considerations.

In fact, if you have a problem of some sort, then I think that is something you take to the relationship and when and where the relationship enters consideration of sexuality (or indeed, before), you declare the problem and it becomes part of the relationship. This may surprise you, but what is discussed below, can and indeed should be part of the "sex" you propose to have with the partner. Just as, should you progress to marriage and a pregnancy, that will be something with which you also should be intimately involved.

> Should I be widening the forskin by putting my fingers inside and stretching it that way or what?

As Jim says, you certainly should. And the other suggestion, using a "dilator" or "stretcher" such as a rubber bung, so it is stretched all day, would most likely be even better. What you should have learned by now is that this is a process, you have begun to develop familiarity with the process, you just keep on with the same process until (and a little beyond for consolidation) you achieve the desired result.

> Also, I do not want to get it cut as my "head" is really sensitive.

Yes, as I say again and again, just like a girl's clitoris - but you need to find your relationship to find out what that is all about.

> I don't like it being touched coz it is so sensitive. I dont even like shower water hitting it etc.

Then don't touch it (except using lubricant)! Don't spray the shower on it. It is obviously designed to be treated differently, and I do hope you understand just how that might be. (;-)

Your turn?


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