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Written by tmtanec at 06 May 2002 23:22:45: Re: My progress and a bit of advice needed from our experts...
As an answer to: My progress and a bit of advice needed from our experts... written by Jake Booth at 04 May 2002 15:59:47:
Alright Jake
Good progress, though maybe it’s time to try some different ways of stretching. What stretching exercises are you doing in the bath? Are you giving it two fingers? That is, putting two fingers inside your foreskin and pulling them apart? This seems effective for a bit, though the main point of the exercise seems to be to make it easier to retract when hard so as to expose the glans completely. It seems that you can mostly do this.
You say, “the skin is still tight when retracted erect, and sometimes it will not go all the way.” Peculiar things, foreskins. There seems to be some kind of internal lubricant that makes the skin roll easily on itself, though sometimes – if you’re dehydrated, or if you’ve been sliding it a lot just recently – it doesn’t want to play. Additional lubrication can often help here, though don’t use soap, shampoo, or bubble bath, or anything else that might strip your skin of its natural oils. I’d say, don’t use these things on your foreskin at all. For lubrication, try E45, baby oil, or olive oil.
Even when it does retract erect, it’s still tight. So… It doesn’t roll forward easily again, and maybe seems to get stuck? I’m guessing here, though this is the way it was with me for a while. If I’ve guessed right, you need to loosen it further so that it has a potential diameter that is a bit larger than the diameter of the ridge of your glans at erection.
OK, you knew that anyway. What you want to know is how? Well, one way is to do some erection work. Pull your foreskin back as far as you can while erect. Stretch it almost to the point of discomfort and hold. Then relax and do whatever you need to stay hard. Do as many reps as you can. Ten say, of almost a minute each. Work at this for a good few months, trying to get it to pull progressively further and further down your shaft. If the widest part of your shaft is about as least as wide as the widest part of your glans, then you’ll be able to use the shaft as a stretching ‘device’. Pretty soon, your foreskin should stretch wide enough so as to roll freely over the glans even at maximum erection – though at orgasm the glans often swells up even more, at which point, rolling forward again will become more difficult. But, hey, arguably this is what is supposed to happen.
If it seems that the ridge of your glans is too prominent to allow the skin to roll forwards easily again, you could try using a tighter grip. Give it as good a stretch back as you can so as to get it ready to roll, and then, using a tight, fist-style grip, slide it forward again. The firm grip should cause your glans to yield, so that your foreskin will now roll over it again. If you persist with this for a while, the skin should stretch and become accustomed to this. Eventually, this will begin to work with a loose grip too.
If it won’t roll forward again, try pulling it back instead. Sometimes the thing seems to get itself into a configuration that is not adapted to rolling, and you need to straighten this out. Pulling it back is often the easiest way.
I have a speculative theory that has to do with this business of the glans swelling up even more at the point of orgasm. Although this is a well-known response, its timing seems to be dependent to some extent on training. It could even be that many so-called mild phimoses are in fact due to a slight mistiming of this vascular event. Ideally, it occurs only seconds before orgasm (since the man can’t get his foreskin to go forwards again – or at any rate doesn’t want to - he is ‘stuck’ inside his partner, and tends to make very short thrusts that put continual pressure on his partner’s mons veneris and clitoris – assuming his partner is female and they are doing it missionary style). But without the necessary training, this event may perhaps occur too early, and may occur as soon as full erection is achieved, or the foreskin is retracted.
So here’s a question: does your glans swell up even more just before orgasm? If it doesn’t, but seems to attain its maximum size as soon as you get to full erection and retract your foreskin, it could be that you need to train your glans as well. The tight grip technique, plus lots of practice – 30 minutes per day if you can – should give it the opportunity to learn. How long will this take? Dunno. Six months maybe.
I reckon - though this is speculative too - that the excessive sensitivity often reported by young guys with phimosis could also sometimes be due to the glans swelling up to its maximum size too soon. Even now, with a foreskin well loosened by lots of stretching, and a glans that is no longer over-sensitive in the way it used to be, here’s what happens when I shoot: my glans swells up quite noticeably, and my foreskin won’t roll forwards again unless I take things determinedly in hand and use a pretty tight grip. My glans also becomes hypersensitive at this point - about as sensitive as it used to be when I first started retracting completely. But I have no complaints about this. In fact, it seems quite a clever design.Don’t know if the above is likely to help, but if you have time, let me know what you think. Cheers.
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