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Written by Paul B. at 13 Aug 2002 23:56:24: H E L P
As an answer to: Help & Questions written by Anyonym at 13 Aug 2002 21:17:59:
> I am 18. Never Had sex. I am uncircumcised.
Not a good word. Try and train yourself to refer and think of yourself as Intact ("complete", "whole", "undamaged"). It's a discipline that will give you more self-confidence. Oh yes, you actually mean "Never had sex with a girl", don't you?
> When my penis is erect/hard is my foreskin supposed to retract behind the glans?
Yes. If you want it to. But presumably you do, as it probably makes sexual intercourse a little nicer, including for the lady concerned. Of course, from her perspective, the worst thing would be if you were circumcised as then you would have no skin movement, which movement is necessary to make intercourse softer and more pleasant.
Now as to masturbation, I am sure you have found this perfectly acceptable as you are, though it does allow you a few more options if you can roll the foreskin all the way back and forward again as you stroke.
> When it is flacid/soft i can retract the foreskin fully. When it is hard/erect the skin just opens up a litle hole but still covers the glans.
Then it is tight. I see you have done some internet research on this. Now make use of this site and read all the discussion on stretching and tightness. It will be challenging - there is some bizarre stuff in there, not so much the suggestions to use techniques and things to help, which may appear a little bizarre at first but actually is not, but to see all the doom-saying that it might not work, it might not work for you. it is "dangerous", it will not work and such. Fact is, if you're even passably smart, you can realise that it is a simple process and it will work for you if - if you actually do it.
Do have a good read here (may have to read a few "pages" back too), then if you have difficult questions, ask in detail.
> When I manually retract it i can get to stage 3 & 4 on the first picture on this site: http://indra.com/~shredder/intact/anatomy/
Yeah. Great site.
> On stage 4 the skin rollsback behind the glans and dosent want to go any farther down. When i let go sometimes it slides up. Do I have a short fernelum?
Yeah. Perhaps you do. But you have said you have a tight foreskin too.
> What are my options what should I do?
Well, two main options. You could go for the "AJ" option as we call it, and get it all cut away, foreskin and fraenulum. Then you wouldn't have to worry about it anymore - ever - at all, because you just wouldn't have it.
Or you can go for the stretching option. You just stretch it. As you stretch it, the foreskin will loosen and the fraenulum will loosen. It will take a while, but you are in no hurry - you're terribly young still(!). Oh yes, some chaps think they are in a hurry because they think they are going to heave sex (meaning: intercourse with a girl) real soon, but they don't really know about sex. If you have a girlfriend and propose to have sex, learning about how to use what you have, including any limitations you may have, is really part of the sex - otherwise you're in for a boring lifetime!
And it gives you tremendous satisfaction - you did it - you fixed it yourself, and you will have a foreskin that will help you in sex (both masturbation and intercourse), and help your (future) girlfriend/ wife for a lifetime. Someone just recently pointed out the term "love glove", and "woman's personal squeeze toy" would be another good one.
I'm not going to describe stretching in this post - it's all here, but you have to do the research. Do tell us how you go - notice that many others have already.
Cheers!